Last eve was one of the hardest episodes to focus on!Matt statements thruout were selfish,inconsiderate n arrogant! When he stated 'This is a Party to me' with all the chaos of the re-do,the children and Amy predisposed into 2 rooms,I found his behaviour to be thoughtless and narcisstic!When he mumbled to Amy that all of this is for her,I applauded her when she retorted "yeah righ,get that outta your head'! The family and viewers all know who this is for,Matt!...But I did glimpse some of the humilty that I so admired in this man at the genesis of this show when Amy spoke of separation the look on his face reminded me of the old Matt.But I found it sad that it took such profound and harsh dialouge to bring some semblence of caring to Matts demeanor!My respect for him and this show is waning fast.Usually during some part of this show I feel empathy for Matt but not last eve,I was ashamed of him and for him!...J.M.O....Gray

"This is a party to me!" was an insensitive remark.... it would have been less so if he had gone on to say something about how hard it is on everyone else to have their lives uprooted this way and such as that. But, he didn't.

I was really saddened by their 'separating' exchange. Matt has had it with her housekeeping and she has had it with his projects. I really do hope once this is said and done they both learn to compromise.

Hisown,the look on Matts face right before he made the 'Whos gonna keep the B&B clean" you could tell he was thinking I gotta say this and he knew as soon as the words were outta his mouth that he had turned down a really bad road!And whats sad is that he is absolutely right! Whats sadder is that Amy dosent get it ,it being the chaos n disorganization in her home.Her 'Why dont we separate' statement was a shield for whats really going on with her and the mess n 'Stuff' in her domain!..J.M.O...Gray

Classy --- I agree. Matt did know what he was going to say would be met with trouble, and you could tell he felt bad for that, but he weighed it and it needed to be said. He was absolutely right and Amy needs to own that. Better he know that and be honest about it than he pretend it not an issue and some day they make a go of it Amy's way. It would be disaster and Matt knows it. In a way he was protecting her from her own delusion. I also agree that her comment was a defense. My heart went out to both of them.

I am in a relationship in which my fiance OFTEN under-estimates things (Time, cost etc). I will say the intentions are all good, but the execution of the the "plans" is often lacking a total vision. It can and is VERY frustrating to live with a dreamer.
Amy merely wanted a gargage for her car and it morphed into this insane project.

They have been heavily featuring sponsers-Home Depot, that 4-runner thing, which really do give these things to the show at cost for the ad time. (I was on a reality show myself, and recived a TON of stuff! The recipient gets a 1099 for tax purposes at the cost value).

rachel

Yep, the garage sure did morph! lol
I know when my husband plans projects (which we JOINTLY agree upon), I just tell him to figure the cost and then times it by THREE because he is usually off by that much. .It seems to work out then. lol

Let's start with this, I loved the show when I first started watching it. Now I just wish that TLC would find something else to spend their money on. It seems like the Roloffs are just a sink hole for money. I have never seen anyone spend money like that that lives on a farm. I know farming doesn't bring in that kind of income. My family has a farm here in North Carolina.

I would also like to see Amy spend a little money on getting the house clean. I would be down right ashamed to let the world see my house look that way all the time. My big question is why add on to a house when you can't keep the old part clean in the first place. I have see "Big Families" (like the Duggers) on TLC that's homes are clean.

I have one question do your kids ever do anything but eat, sleep, leave a mess, and talk back to you? If I had every said some of the things they say to you to my parents I would have never lived to see my sixteenth birthday.

Matt and Amy need to get a handle on the kids or college will soon be the last thing they will have to worry about.

Oh and one more thing TLC needs to stop showing the twins driving and talking on the cell phones and driving with one hand. This is a bad thing to show. Not even the most experie nced driver needs to talk on the phone and drive.

I will no longer be watching the show. I hate to say, but I can't stand to see such a mess, and the way the kids get away with all that crap.

GROW UP Matt and Amy GROW UP

I know this is an old thread, but I was trying to find one that might be relevant. I got tired of trying to find a relevant thread, so I just picked one about Matt…

My comments are about the episode regarding the “swamp fort.”
Jeremy and his friend were working on their swamp fort and Matt kept driving up on the mule and giving them “advice.”

I just watched the rerun today and I was surprised at the way Jeremy’s friend kept popping off about Matt. That kid needs to keep his mouth shut. Jeremy is the only one that has the “right” to rip on his dad.

Freddy-
I completely agree. It's one thing to be complaining about one's family... I am the oldest and I nag about my brothers and sister, constantly.

However, someone said something nasty about my sister and I beat him to a bloody pulp. (Being a tom-boy has its perks.)

Just like, I can talk about how my wife is a bit lax on a few things, but the moment someone else has a negative comment that isn't completely fact, I pop 'em. Well, one time they called us a derogatory name in reference to us being a female couple, and I broke his nose and attempted to toss him off of our balcony. I went a little far, that time.

Canterbury,

I totally agree. I am the only one that can say anything even remotely nagative about my family.

I was just surprised at the way the kid was popping off.

I can't believe that someone would be so rude as to say something stupid to you while on your balcony. People need to take a refresher course on the old classic of having good manners.
Good for you for poppin him in the snotter. lol.

The kid's friends talk that way because the kids talk that way. There is zero respect in the Roloff household. Matt is a self important,spoiled brat that needs to think of the rest of his family too.
The episode where Mollie and Honey are planting a garden and Matt just cannot butt out is heartbreaking.

treespryt,

I know the garden episode really ticked me off.
First it was suppose to be AMY's and MOLLY'S and no one elses. (Molly referred to that too more than once.) and then exactly what you said..Matt would not SHUT UP for a second..even telling them more of what to plant. Plus to me he just ruined the fun of it for Molly. She was doing a great job without him and even if she wouldn't have been..so what..it was HER project.

Tree -

Actually, in this particular instance, Jeremy kinda wanted to hear what his dad had to say. Sure, he was getting irritated, but he was open to his dad's advice.
And, I still believe that no matter what Jeremy had to say about his dad, the other kid should have kept his yapper shut.

I guess I was brought up differently(obviously)-- But, at 18, I knew not to chime in when a friend was ripping on their parents or family.

I have a feeling that in these instances, Matt is told by the producers of the show to go and get involved in what they are doing - sort of like a script being given to him for the show, except he can say and do what he wants. Sometimes I think he just doesn't KNOW what to say, so it ends up being just a bunch of nothing talk, just irritating the viewers.
I don't fault him for the talking too much sometimes, even though there are times I say to myself, "Okay, shut up already" because I think he really has given so much to his children, regardless of any hardship to himself.
I do, however, think he should have sent the boy home when he started ripping on him. But, since they are on television with millions of people (including the friend's parents) watching, I think he didn't do that.
What I really can't stand is when Amy gets started on her tirades. They sound so phoney to me most of the time, and sound like she is really just playing to the audience. Not very sincere. On the other hand, Matt seems like he doesn't know what to say, and it doesn't sound fake.

The friend was making his comments to Jeremy.
You know, saying stuff like: "Oh, here comes Mr. Advice." (to Jeremy) Matt didn't hear him.

I thought it was totally rude. Jeremy should dump that guy from his friend's list.

I know I watched that episode, but for some reason the remarks part escapes me. Yep, you are right. Jeremy should have dumped the guy.

Many people love Molly and we do too. One of the reasons that Molly has a very special relationship with Matt, is because she is very much like her Dad. Just watch and notice please. Of all including Amy, Molly does show respect her dad. When she disagrees with Matt she does not hit below the belt, or speak disrespectfully to him. She speaks with him in a cordial manner, and listens to his views, and the discussions between the two of them is precious and loyal. When the others, including Amy speak to Matt it is with a tone of disrespect and of distain for him or his opinion. I have thought after watching the show that God bless Molly for she can step outside the ways of the rest of the family, when it comes to her Dad. Even the look on her face when Matt comes into the room is so loving and in turn lights up his face. Not so with the others. Just watch and tell me if you do not see these type of things. Be objective.

Molly is respectful of everyone, it's just her nature. She has been getting more sassy lately though as she has gotten older. It's only natural though, but hopefully she'll never be as awful as Zach.

Originally posted by coralsea:

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Molly is respectful of everyone, it's just her nature.

I was going to type the same thing and you beat me to it!
She is that way towards Amy just as much as Matt. Like you said..to everyone.
Matt does seem to light up when Molly comes in the room..that I do think. But he also can be annoying to Molly too, as when she was TRYING to have a garden with her mom, and Matt wouldn't keep out of it.

My point exactly Brigheyes. Molly did not like her Dad's interference, but she did not cross the line, she just let him know in her won sassy way, that she needed him to butt out. If you watch Amy though she interferes in a very destructive, inappropriate way.

There is anger behind Zach's words when Zach insults or talks back to his father. Zach wants to hurt his father with his words. For whatever reason he's very angry with his father. I think much of this is a result of his close relationship with his mother. She insults Matt therefore Zach joins in. When those two are together, it's like a attack tag team.

I have never understood WHY Zach is allowed to talk to his father this way. I've also never understood why Zach is allowed to discuss punishing Jeremy or one of the other children. Like we've mentioned before, Amy and Matt aren't a united front, and Zach knows this, so until the day comes along that those two get together, it's just going to get worse.

Jeremy is getting way out of control. Amy has empowered him so that he now thinks he is above Matt. Matt is the father and he should be treated with respect. I can just imagine the conversations that Amy and Jeremy have about Matt behind his back. Matt is not perfect but Jeremy and Amy are far from the perfection level too.

I can only imagine the trash conversations that Amy and Jeremy have when they are alone. Amy has encouraged Jeremy to take on a "holier than thou" attitude with Matt. He may not be perfect but he is the father. Amy and Jeremy have missed the mark of perfection too.

Or, maybe we are not seeing the entire picture...do you think Matt is being ugly to Amy and Jeremy feels like he has to step in and by necessity be Amy's defender? It's confusing because we only see what is on the screen...not behind closed doors.

Juicy... I'm assuming you are referring to Zach and not Jeremy in your posts above, right?

I was just thinking (a great feat in itself). In the early episodes Matt emphasized that he had always wanted to be just friends with his kids and didn't play the role of the father as he should have. I'm sure that he was also absent much of the time. He missed a lot of the kids activities and even criticized them in some cases. I'm not excusing the rude behavior shown toward him, but I wonder if his earlier behavior toward the family may be playing a big part in attitudes. I know that he seems to be trying to be a better father "figure" these days, but it was a long time coming. Amy seems to resent him sticking his nose in the family affairs and the kids seem to resent his new desire to establish his authority persona. I've heard Zach relate these same feelings on several occasions. Again, I'm not excusing their behavior but Matts attempt to change the family dynamics may have come back to bite him in the "you know where".
As Always, JMO.