Why would Amy schedule a speaking engagement the week her kids are on a break? It seemed she then tried to punish Matt by refusing to even consider flying to BVI after she spoke.
When she said something about his going from island to island, I thought it was on a boat with other paying customers, but when they got there and it was a boat he chartered for his family, they easily could have sailed back and picked her up after she was done.
Looked like she wanted to show Matt that the kids love and are more loyal to her than Matt and if they want to disrespect him it's OK..
It's a shame to be so petty..

It was a power grab. She thinks she won but in reality she lost.

We have no idea how far in advance her speech was booked. And when better to be gone than when the kids don't need to be anywhere like school? After all don't they have a father to watch them?

[QUOTE]Originally posted by bvdbobcat:
Why would Amy schedule a speaking engagement the week her kids are on a break?

I wonder that too, why, indeed would she plan a speech then? I wonder if she even told Matt about it. sad, sad, sad.

Once again, we have NO idea when she needed to schedule her speaking engagement! Don't blame that on Amy when the audience doesn't know all the facts! It's funny because this whole time people are saying how Matt is the provider, and he works hard to support the family while Amy does nothing. Well, now it is Amy's chance to support the family by doing this speaking engagement (I'm sure she was paid) and now people are suggesting she should have cancelled and stayed home to go on this vacation?!?! That makes no sense what so ever. Treespryt is right they do have a father to watch them while Amy is out making the money. After all, Amy does it all the time for Matt.

You all do realize that when someone is booked to speak they are asked for a specific dates. Amy wouldn't have had much choice (if any)as to when the speech would happen. Once she did accept it's important to be seen as reliable and actually show up. Please explain why Matt's wants are more important than Amy's work but last year Matt's work was more important than Amy's wants? After all,whoever is working is bringing in money.

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Originally posted by encyclopaedia:
It was a power grab. She thinks she won but in reality she lost.

That's how I see it. And Amy seems to be all about power.

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Originally posted by treespryt:
You all do realize that when someone is booked to speak they are asked for a specific dates. Amy wouldn't have had much choice (if any)as to when the speech would happen. Once she did accept it's important to be seen as reliable and actually show up. Please explain why Matt's wants are more important than Amy's work but last year Matt's work was more important than Amy's wants? After all,whoever is working is bringing in money.

A couple of things:
1) last year Matt was worried about making money for the farm and losing the pumpkin crop, so I guess by your logic, Matt was bringing home the money so he should have left and attended to that need. Even though Matt left, he didn't raise a stink and try and get some of the kids to go home with him, but let them all continue on that vacation.
3) I feel Amy she should have been ecstatic that the kids were going someplace exotic for their break and convince Zach to go and not try and punish the family because she couldn't go. She seemed to love it that at least two of her kids were loyal to her, even though they missed a great time, by playing basketball with her girlfriends and traveling to a water fall, which they could do anytime (and probably have).

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Originally posted by treespryt:
You all do realize that when someone is booked to speak they are asked for a specific dates. Amy wouldn't have had much choice (if any)as to when the speech would happen. Once she did accept it's important to be seen as reliable and actually show up. Please explain why Matt's wants are more important than Amy's work but last year Matt's work was more important than Amy's wants? After all,whoever is working is bringing in money.

Even aside from the financial aspect of it, it's kind of amusing to read that Amy should be so (fill in the word here..ashamed, selfish, non-supportive, etc.) about scheduling the few speaking dates she accepts...but when Matt wants to refloor the living room an hour before Thanksgiving dinner, or tear down most of the house during winter, he does not need to have any feelings that are not of purest bliss.
This it has been, and therefore, shall always be.

Lets's face it, Amy wants total and complete CONTROL. This was just one more time when she could throw a wrench into someone else's plans to suit her own. As for Zach not going, big deal. He's 18, Amy could have flown down after her speaking engagement and Zach could stay at the house ALONE. Maybe it would give him time to reflect on just how immature he is. Zach needs to seriously grown up and Amy needs to seriously let go of the twins.

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Originally posted by watcher51:
Lets's face it, Amy wants total and complete CONTROL. This was just one more time when she could throw a wrench into someone else's plans to suit her own. As for Zach not going, big deal. He's 18, Amy could have flown down after her speaking engagement and Zach could stay at the house ALONE. Maybe it would give him time to reflect on just how immature he is. Zach needs to seriously grown up and Amy needs to seriously let go of the twins.

watcher51 - ITA!!!!!

Yes they have a father to watch them so why couldn't he at the BVI? In the past Amy has always planned things during the summer break. Look at past shows. This time Matt did. This might make alot of women angry so I will try to say this with salt. Men should have the last say however they should also take into consideration their wives feelings. Amy was not at home why was it a big deal what the rest of them did. We all know as long as this show goes on there will be many more vac. for the family to go on. It would have been nice to see a gracious Amy, instead we saw a selfish manipulating Amy. That high five showed lack of maturity. Of course thats JMO.

Cindylynn, regarding your comment "This might make alot of women angry so I will try to say this with salt. Men should have the last say however they should also take into consideration their wives feelings."

You are kidding, right? I don't know what year you are living in but where I'm at it is 2009. The secret to a successful marriage is working together in making decisions, not the man having "the last say" over the woman when making decisions. I've been happily married for 23.5 yrs and can say this from real life experience. If my husband "had the last say" in our decision making I wouldn't have stay married to him this long. That kind of mentality is unhealthy and encourages controlling (which many times can lead to abusive) behavior in a relationship. I have a great marriage, career, and life because I have a supportive husband that considers and treats me as his equal. When I read comments like yours it really makes me pause and be thankful for how good the quality of my life and marriage is.

I agree we dont know the whole story so I am not going to make a judgement on what happened. I will say that the show kinda made me sad. I feel that things are not going so well for Matt and Amy. I hope we are not looking at another reality show break up...