We love your family! Each of you are so unique in your likes and talents...that's what makes you so intriguing. Matt lives for projects and Amy lives for her kids...taking away his joy of projects would be like taking away the kids to you amy. It's his thing. but everytime he tries to talk to amy about it she looks at him with such hate. she treats him like a pile of poop. she wouldn't even let him in the picture last night (winter formal) with his own kids. he tries to be considerate of her and she could care less about him, the father of those children she adores so much, who gave her everything she has. no appreciation. I wish instead of glorying about when they get divorced, she would stop and ask "what can I do to make you happy Matt? You are my husband, the father of my children and the reason we are so financially successful". Want each other to be happy, not just yourself. TRY!

Matt may not be openly critical but he rarely considers Amy's feelings either. Let's face it that poor woman has 5 kids and one has access to the bank accounts.

Matt and Amy, I know all married couples argue, and we all know it happens, but my 8 year old loves to watch with me and lately all he has noticed is you two acting like you don't like each other. I know you both don't agree on many issues, but could you please smile at one another more for the kids that watch the show, instead of those ugly disgusted faces all the time, you both are such beautiful people, show us those pearly whites.

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he tries to be considerate of her and she could care less about him, the father of those children she adores so much, who gave her everything she has. no appreciation. I wish instead of glorying about when they get divorced, she would stop and ask "what can I do to make you happy Matt?

Oh, that's priceless! June Cleaver lives.

I agree that Amy loves her kids, however, parents can love their kids yet create very distructive habits for them the rest of their life. Role modeling disrespect and allowing laziness and entitlement in your kids is not a loving thing to do. It's actually crippling...more crippling than dwarfism IMO.

Love, unfortunately isn't enough. That love has to be channeled properly. Love shouldn't be over indulgent to the detriment of the object of that love.

Matt & Amy have created monsters.The children show no respect for either parent.By always being at odds with each other the children know how to PLAY each parent. And they do it well. The boys will never get into a decent college or beable to function well or contribute without mommy doing it for them.It doesnt mean you dont love them by expecting them to contribute to the family.I hope you get help soon.
while, Jacob is still young.Good luck I can no longer watch this train reck.

It does sadden me to watch the dynamics of this family on TV. TLC has portrayed them in a certain light and I wonder how true that is.
I see a lot of anger from Amy towards Matt. I also think that she has "lost that lovin' feeling" towards him. I don't see her supporting her husband at all, or compromising. She seems very immpatient and easily agitated. I know Matt is far from perfect but he's trying...and he appears to still dote on his wife.
What pains me the most is seeing the two argue in front of their children and constantly go against each other. Amy appears to complain about Matt to her children ALOT! I don't agree with this.
As a parent I think it's very important to be on the same page with discipline and have seen what happens when two parents don't enforce each other. It takes communication and compromise between adults. It's a hard thing to practice. But it is crucial to well behaved children to respect BOTH parents.
I hope that the parents find out what works for each other...whether they seperate or learn to work together HAPPILY!

I've watched the show, off and on, since the beginning. But I still can't decide (for myself) which one is right, Matt or Amy. The only thing that I see in their relationship clearly is that is much more a loving husband than Amy is (as a loving wife). Matt does alot for Amy, making her birthdays and their anniversaries special. And I have heard him tell her he loves her much more than I have heard Amy tell Matt that she loves him. Just my opinion!

Maybe it's just a matter of the parties' focus.

Matt focuses on his projects and Amy.

Amy focuses on the four kids.

I'm thinking of the suprise Amy received one birthday. A company, which makes lovely cedar gazebos, provided one and set it up on the farm.
They got a plug for doing so......as did the catering chef who prepared a special anniversary dinner for them at home. We are seeing 'shows' here...as long as we recognize they are shows and clearly not the intimate life of a couple, which we would have no biz seeing.

I was also thinking of the Gazeebo episode. And I know they get all of this stuff free. I was also remembering one episode in particular where Amy and Matt went out (just the 2 of them) to a very swank restaurant. Matt seemed more sincere when he spoke to Amy about their lives together and how much he loves and appreciate her. IMO, she seemed to have a hard time (or maybe just uncomfortable) talking the same way to Matt.

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I know Matt is far from perfect but he's trying...and he appears to still dote on his wife.

Dote on his wife? Would that be when he makes decisions behind her back, or when he asks her what she thinks should be done, and then does the opposite? I'll give you that he seems to know how to put on a good front at the appropriate times, birthdays, anniversaries, etc, but its the day-to-day living that reveals the honest truth, and IMHO he then pretty much dotes on himself.

I never thought that I would get hooked on the family but I did. I don't like what I am seeing between Amy and Matt and they better get some help soon or they may go the way of Jon and Kate which is HIDEOUS. The fact that the kids take sides is horrible. Matt and Amy better start working on their relationship without the kids or there won't be a them soon.

I hope the Roloffs are not going the way the Gosselins have gone I pray that this does not happen