WELL HE IS IN JAIL FOR DRUG PARAPHERNALIA WARRANTS.SO MAYBE THIS TIME IS THE STRAW THAT BREAKS THE CAMELS BACK.I WROTE HIM A LETTER AND GOING TO SEEN IT TO HIM AND MAYBE HE WILL WRITE BACK. HE'S GOT AWHILE BEFORE HE GETS OUT SO I HOPE THIS WILL BE A FRESH START FOR HIM.

He would'nt be in jail if drugs were legal and you could get help. Instead you think jail is a miracle worker. He may be better off without you that way. Did you send everything needed to write back , and do you think stamps will be at a higher price when he decides to write back. What do you want for nothing,,,rubber biscuits. How is your life without him to harras all the time. The cat is now going thru hell?

well he is out and no he didn't write be back .the person i loved crack took over and know i once you get hooked it's hard to get off,but that's no excuse for his behavior.i want to divorce him but they are a voice inside me is telling me to wait.do i get a divorce or do i listen to the voice and i believe in soul mates.

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Pam, My Addict is my Son who just turned 30yrs. old,we HAD to have him 'removed' from the house, cause of not only his drinking, but his 'Meth' use made him 'MEAN', so since he was 13-14yrs yrs, we too played..The 'Jail' game, him not coming home for days at a time, the Police coming to the door looking for him. NO! we never bailed him out, in fact I signed some papers for him to go to jail, he was using 'Meth' & becoming mean, we finally had him 'removed' from the house in Sept. o6, so hes been on 'Homeless' since then. We got a restraing order on him in '85, but took him back when we say him 'skin & bones', no job, & very dirty. He showed up at a picnic that a 'Group' we were going to, called 'Action.' This group had one room for the parents & one room for the 'Kids', in age he was to old for this group, we were just grabbing at straws.
So we have went threw many days when he was in jail,& days when we had to hide every dime, I have 'Back pain' since I was 9yrs old, so my meds had to be hidden, some days I would hide them in the trunk of the car & forget to get 'some' of them out out before my husb. took off to work...those days I spent in 'Screaming Pain'..LOL He tryed to run from the police & even though it wasn't 'right', he was 'Tackled' to the ground & had many scratches & a few stiches. Of Course there is so much more, like now him telling us how he would take one of our cars to 'joy ride' in..just think what would would happen if he 'DID' cause an accent..We would of lost everything, he did try a few times to 'steal' his brothers car, one time 'rolling' back into a 'o6 'Audi'...That cost us 12hund. dollars, but the Ins. Co as many do..'Screwed us' big time.
Pam you say 'I listen to a voice' that tells you not to get a divorce...But is this a marrage? You have one son to raise, why do you want to raise another one? All your going to have is 'your husb. going in & out of jail, racking up fines & more fines, my Son owes over 6 thous. in fines, my husb. drank & beat me for 11yrs. this was in the late '70's, so they weren't as 'Tough' then. I'll tell you sometime 'WHY' I stayed' & now that I'm in my '50's I'm sorry I ..'Did stay', I did drink with him for 8 mons. or so, he had 'G-friends' one lived down the street & when I want to work at 5p.m. she would bring her..'Angles' & drink with him, many nights I'd be up untill 2a.m. cleaning the house..AGAIN'...YEP..I 'sing to myself the old song..'Someone has to play the fool' & I was such ..A BIG ONE', but I lived threw my X-Dad abuse..the 'Divorce' & all my Moms moves & 'always' being 'the new girl' like the one in the Cormercal..I wasn't going to raise my kids like that. I know I said it before but..I wish I left & I don't want to see you 'saying' the same in your 50's.
I went to some 'Battered Womans' Meetings, which helped me alot, I went to..shoot the name escapes me, but the meeting for familys & friends of people who live with 'Alochols', the few in my town were a 'joke' really...one 'Meeting' was a 'tupperwhere party'?? But please try to find some for you & GO!..no matter how much your husband says..'There dumb'..or 'accuses' them of ..'putting wierd things in your head', or how much he downs them & he will. Do you think he wants you to 'Get healthy?' NO! he wants you to 'STAY' as his doormat.
I'll read more on this board & probly make more people mad at me as you probly are now. I'm sorry I just don't want you to live & care for an 'Drunk'...belive me they will 'suck the life out of you' & when they are done...There are other Woman ..'To care for me'. If you want to 'BLAST' me my e-mail is..yellmouth@roadrunner.com, lets see if this board lets it be showen. I want to 'mess up another members day'...Blondie something, maybe she doesn't know that many states have passed a law that says if you are hit, slapped or anything like that...The one that 'hit' goes straight to jail...NO ONE SHOULD BE HIT OR SLAPPED...FOR ANY REASON!! So Pam Take care & if you will allow me to post messages to you...we'll talk soon. Pam I'v been there..& my sisters name is 'Pam', I'm here to help in any way I can. But you have to 'STAND UP & BE AN ADULT'. Your Son is thinking all woman SHOULD be treated as..'NOTHINGS' as he sees you are. Hugs, Pegi

thanks for that .it makes me feel better that i am not the only one out there.i am going to divorce my husband when i get to Tennessee. hope your son gets help before it's to late meth is so hard to get clean from.