Hello,

I am a 33 year old single male who is currently dating a fantastic lady. We have been going out for over a month. I can not ask for more from a partner; she... means the world to me.

A major problem, though, is me unable to maintain an erection for penetration. I do feel as if I am getting hard during foreplay, but.. when it comes time to "close the deal," I lose it before insertion, or during.

I have not had a lot of sexual encounters, with most of them not being good experiences. Actually, I have never orgasmed inside a woman before.

However, she has been sexually satisfied via other methods (oral, masturbation); she wants more, of course. She wants to feel me in her, and I want so badly to be in her to feel me, and for me to feel her.

This is a potential issue that may end this relationship, and I do not want to lose her because of this. It would be devastating to me. So, any advice that can help will be greatly apreciated.

To be specific, she believe that I am not desiring her, that she is doing something wrong. I have told her that it is not her; however, she is just taking my word of it, having doubts about that (which breaks my heart). She has not have had a partner where this has happened, so this is new to her, and she does not know what to think.

She means the world to me, and I do not want to let her down. If more information is needed, let me know.

Thank you.

Lost_In_Lostangeles,

If you were as open with your lady as you are with us, you might be well on the way to reaching a better sexual understanding with each other.

It sounds as though you've found yourself a winner of a partner, so congrats, Buddy. She sounds like someone who can really help you through your problems, if you take the chance.

I take it that you function sexually okay on your own, it's just that when you're with a partner that things don't happen the way you want them to. Believe it or not, when you are REALLY in love,(or really attracted so someone) this is quite a common thing to happen. When I was dating my future wife I often felt like I would be violating her somehow by just shoving myself at her like a bull, because she meant more than that to me. I wanted her like crazy, don't get me wrong! But, my subconscious got between my heart and my body and it was no-go for penetration.

I also had never 'orgasmed' inside a woman before that time so that was another hurdle I had to cross. I trusted my wife, I told her what I was feeling and why; she slowed down and helped me relax, and now things are great.

If both you guys are willing to stick around and see this thing through as a team, you can work it out. As long as she knows that you really, really care for her, she'll show you what you need to do.

Dear "Lost in LA",
Sounds like a psychological problem to me. If you can successfully maintain an erection to masturbate and if you have at least occassional nocturnal, sleeping erections then I'd say go see a good psychologist who specializes in sexual problems.
As an added "Attraction" to your cunnilingus skills here's one you can add to keep her satisfied: 1st begin by sucking on her labial lips to begin the stimulation. Don't just dive for the clitorus right away. Then, with one or two fingers (whichever she wants) reach inside her vagina and gently stroke her G-spot (A spongy "bump" on the anterior wall of her vagina)in a "come here" motion. Do this for a minute or two and THEN begin to lick her clitorus, all the while continuing stroking her G-spot. Use different directions of licking as well as sucking of her clitorus. Ask her to tell you what feels best. Using a combination of stimulus like this will give her different and often more intense orgasm(s).
But DO see a psychologist.

Lost, get in touch with a health professional. While it is not common, men your age can suffer from erectile dysfunction. Get tested for diabetes along with other areas of your health and open up to the lady. If she is really there for you, two can address far better than one who is hiding.

Try Extagen. This drug works for my husband very effective.

Try viagra or cialis drug.

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Although am not a doctor or I never suffered with any type of ED problems but erectile dysfunction is an illness which can be cured. You should consult with a doctor for this. There are many options available in the market to get rid of this but with doctor’s perception. Livetra also a good one for all this type of ED related issue.

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Levitra works too.

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