I have never had a orgasm through intercourse, I have reached them manually. I have a very healthy sex drive and enjoy intercourse, but it is very frustrating for my partner. Is there any help?

Hi funloving.... I can only offer you advice from my own experiences....

Stop, and don't concentrate and focus on having orgasms through intercourse at this time... first, begin by enjoying the sensations of making love and having sexual experiences with your partner.

Buy some books on Tantric sex... take your time, involve your partner in the whole experience, explore your body and explore the response of your clitoris, your vaginal lips, your inside of the vagina - and the all elusive g-spot. Go on a mission - a hunt - to find your g-spot with your partner as the hunter, and you as the territory being explored. Have him try - slowly and with plenty of time - different ways of touching you inside to find out about your different responses. Then, again, over time and many, many lovemaking sessions, see if he can replace the sensations you feel with his hands and fingers with his penis - have him enter you in different positions - some women prefer rear entry, I happen to orgasm almost immediately in a modified missionary position, where I bend my legs and put my knees up on my partners chest while he enters me.

Each woman is different, and each woman's g-spot is in a slightly different spot... and each woman's anatomy is also a bit different - I happen to get my clitoris aroused by my partner's movements and/or his belly when he enters me. You may need to give yourself a bit of other stimulation while he is inside you. That's fine - a 'blended' or combined orgasm, where the clit and the g-spot are stimulated is an incredible feeling.

Take time - take years of exploring - enjoy yourselves!! Find out about his responses as well... ask him to explore the ideas of male multiple orgasm - where he learns to use his PC muscle to control his ejaculation, and his experiences to know and sense his level of arousal - thereby, he can choose when to come, and can prolong his ecstasy over a long period in order to bring you to orgasms many times.

Orgasms come in many different shapes and sizes, and an orgasm during intercourse is only one - actually there can be many different varitations even on this. There is the orgasm where he is touching, stroking your g-spot with his cock - this is usually pretty shallow, with the first 1/2 of the cock, and concentrated on the upper part of your vagina - the immediate 2-3 inches from the entry. Then there is the deeper orgasm - one where he is fully in you, and moving - it seems - almost against your womb. For me, I reach orgasm like this only when I'm truly fully aroused, and have had many more orgasms in many other ways during our lovemaking.... then everything is super-sensitive. These orgasms are unlike any others that I've experienced - they rock my core, and last forever, seemingly so. Afterwards, there is a glow - a 'humming' inside me, right where the entrance to my uterus would be - the "center spot" I call it.... sometimes this lasts for many minutes, almost an hour or 2 if we've been making love for hours also.

So, I guess in conclusion, my advice to you would be - take your time, explore yourself and have your partner be your fellow explorer - enjoy yourselves, and concentrate on all of the multitude of sensations you can experience - guaranteed, orgasm during intercourse will be one of your experiences...

Best of luck to you both,
-chrischic

Hello. I couldn't reach orgasmism through intercourse at first either. When I would masterbate, I would get clitoral stimulation by grinding on my mattress. We would "dry hump" so he'd know that I had an orgasm. Eventually, we began to try something a little different. During the missionary position, when he comes down to kiss me or bite my neck, I pull him close and grind on him the way I did my mattress.
If you don't orgasm through clitoral stimulation, what I found helped me was finding my g-spot by myself. Once I found it and was sure of what it was, I told him and he found it. Now he searches for it and finds it 90% of the time. Spend some time with yourself to find out what is good for you and then tell him. He's obviously concerned so I sure he'll want to help.

Hi fun. Doggy style works wonders for me plus my husband enjoys the view. Also, when we're missionary, we'll put his hands under my butt and I'll open my legs up so that he has full access to my G spot. That is the one right there and is guaranteed results. Most importantly, relax and have fun. Also, have your man put his forefinger and middle finger inside you and then once he's in, have him do the "come here" gesture with them. That helps to locate and stimulate the G spot. Hope this helps

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Originally posted by funloving392001:
I have never had a orgasm through intercourse, I have reached them manually. I have a very healthy sex drive and enjoy intercourse, but it is very frustrating for my partner. Is there any help?

I don't want to sound sexest but a man should know what buttons in general to hit for women. I will admit it is hard at first to figure it out. Every woman is differnt, this thing takes time Rome was not built in a day don't think you will figure it out how to shake it down in a day either. For vaginal stimulation their are the three mains. Read a book and it will tell you exactly where. But physical and mental stimuli is where it falls for women. Mine is visual and mental, for all the men out there this advice really helps if you have sex problems look at you partner as your only sexual release no masterbation, no looking at pretty women and thinking i would like to tap that... Only think of your wife as you sexual release. This will magnify your sexual experience. Tell her how hot she looks use the word sexy and beautiful to her sometimes in a romantic way out in public by whispering it in her ear. And you will get it when you get home. This helps be a gentleman. Ladies loves a shilverious man. When you have sex don't think about you think about her what you need to do to finish her off good. Give her a massage and be slow don't think sprint think marathon. Mine recupe time before i can have sex after orgasm is about five minutes and she is the one ready to sleep afterwards i will have her post later.

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thanks dude, for that sincere[sp?] reply. hope it helps others...Dave.

Don't think you're different. A study out of the UK (St. Thomas Hospital, London -target group 4,000 women) found :

"'The survey at St Thomas's Hospital found just 14 per cent of women had an orgasm every time they had sex and 14 per cent had never experienced one."

So that means 86% DON'T generally orgasm during PIV sex and another 14 % NEVER have.

Over a lifetime of learning many women learn to angle their pelvis so that there is a better chance of the proper stimulation. Some just give up and "get off" on their partners having such a good time. Sex is like an athletic event. You have to work at it for it to get really good and you have to know what feels really good and works for you because getting there by trial and error on the part of your So takes a looong time and and will be full of frustrations - probably good feeling frustrations but if you know what you're doing you can be spending much of that time ORGASMING instead which is better than anything since V12's