Sometimes I get very close. but just can not reach climax [] while having sex. This dosnt happen too often. After I pull out and masturbate I will climax[] - but not too much. Not exactly sure why.
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How often are you masturbating? It could be a matter of not "priming the pump" so much so to speak. I know if it has been several days I really have to hold back because my sensitivity is heightened and I'm holding back a full load.
From a female's perspective... I sometimes have difficulty reaching orgasm. I want my partner to stay in the same spot for me to 'get there' and when he moves, I loose focus and can't always get back on track... But, I do try to 'recover' sometimes, even if I have to do it myself after he goes to sleep!
My name is Valerie and l'm 25 years old. I've never ever had an orgasm. Some times l feel it grow inside me but then the sensation just goes away. I've been wondering why it is like that and if there is anything l can do about it. I don't masturbate either, l've never felt like it so l don't know if that's part of the problem. If anyone has any suggestions, please feel free to let me know
I am a believer that to be able to achieve climax with a partner you really need to master the act on your own first. With yourself you can try many different things and you know what feels good and what doesn't. Even if you don't like to masterbate (which is ok) you should go ahead and practice to try to achieve an orgasm. If you continue to have difficulties achieving orgasm with just your fingers you might consider a vibrator.
Wow, I have never had sex without orgasms. I always do at least once most of the times 3 times. It seems now that I am older ( 30 something) I have more multiples than singles.
Hey Valerie. When you are about to orgasm, you just have to relax, let it flow... There is nothing wrong with you. I had the same problem for a while, till I learned to relax, and enjoy the moment, let go of all my ambitions. If you explore your body more yourself ( I did ), it will help. You just have to find that spot that makes you orgasm all the way. Once you find it you will always have a full climax. And, If you esplore your body, you will know what turns you on, and beable to tell your significant other what to do. Start with outside stimulation, like your clit, for example, maybe a vibrater... Just explore your body. It does take time, but make it fun for yourself when you do it, and JUST RELAX! If you tense up, or get nervous/anxious, you won't have a full body climax/orgasm. Hope that help you... -Jadajeweljess
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Originally posted by amarilysusa: Hello all,
My name is Valerie and l'm 25 years old. I've never ever had an orgasm. Some times l feel it grow inside me but then the sensation just goes away. I've been wondering why it is like that and if there is anything l can do about it. I don't masturbate either, l've never felt like it so l don't know if that's part of the problem. If anyone has any suggestions, please feel free to let me know
I have had the same problem. You just have to talk to him, tell him "stay there". Usually a man won't get upset if you tell him sensually. He wants to make you happy, and please you he will do it. -jadajeweljess
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Originally posted by kna7401: From a female's perspective... I sometimes have difficulty reaching orgasm. I want my partner to stay in the same spot for me to 'get there' and when he moves, I loose focus and can't always get back on track... But, I do try to 'recover' sometimes, even if I have to do it myself after he goes to sleep!
If I'm masturbating, I can have a clitoral orgasm within a matter of 5 min or less. Of course, I know my spots, so that's why. If I'm having sex with DH, and we're in the right position, again, 5 minutes or less. I pretty much always succeed at cumming.
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Originally posted by mod_kelly: at achieving an orgasm?
My advice - MASTURBATE. That's the only way you are going to be able to know what works for you and what doesn't. Go out and invest in a good vibrator that you can use for both clitoral & G spot stimulation. It's important that you know your body well enough so that you can tell your partner what works. If you can't afford the toys, try your detachable shower head, if you have one, or turn your water faucet on in your bathtub full strength. Give these things full access to your clitoris and see what happens. It's a beautiful thing
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Originally posted by amarilysusa: Hello all,
My name is Valerie and l'm 25 years old. I've never ever had an orgasm. Some times l feel it grow inside me but then the sensation just goes away. I've been wondering why it is like that and if there is anything l can do about it. I don't masturbate either, l've never felt like it so l don't know if that's part of the problem. If anyone has any suggestions, please feel free to let me know
I'm a guy, and i have trouble orgasming during sexual intercourse. I can masturbate and orgasm just fine, but when it comes to sex, it rarely happens, and when it does it takes a long time for it to happen. I've had this problem since my first time having sex, my first and second times i went at it for over an hour each time and never orgasmed. i've been trying to find help on the problem, but so far i haven't had any luck.
hey i have never had an orgasm during sex! I hate it. i can "get off" with clitoral stimulation when i do it myself but not with oral sex. I love having sex because it does feel really good but i wish i could just once have an orgasm. I masterbate but i can't give myself an orgasm unless i have direct stimulation of my clitoris. I heard the way im doing it can be bad for me but how can i stop if thats the only way i can orgasm??
Yeah, the main spot seems to be my clitorus also. If i touch it directly it isn't good, I have to rub beside it with all the folds of skin between my finger and it. Otherwise it gets too sore or doesn't feel right and I can't cum. Gentle rubbing is sometiomes the only way I can get there. During sex it rarely happens unless I'm already almost there before intercourse. I'm a slow warmer anyway. Valerie, I do feel that you have to touch all over your body and find all your good spots. I don't believe there is only one because skin is an errogenous zone if we know how to touch ourselves in ways that feel good. Everybody is different yet the same too. We all have the same parts!
Question ladies. I've read a number of posts telling her to "relax" and "go with the flow" in order to orgasm.
OK I've watched a ton of women masturbating (even better than watching Paula on CNN)and leading up to a good orgasm(s) they quite clearly TENSE UP. Tummies push out, legs lock and if you just happen to find a finger buried in their bum while they're doing this (just helping out - I couldn't help myself. I'm just a helpful kinda guy, OK?) then you can FEEL their PC muscles are LOCKED and squeezing as hard as they can clench.
So WHY are women being told to RELAX when their SO is getting rug burns on his tongue or he's about to shatter his lower spine from thrusting and he wants desperately for HER to orgasm first? Why are you all tense to the point of near convulsion when YOU'RE about to make yourself climax but if you advising another on howto get over the top, you're telling her to *RELAX* ?????
Which is it?
I already know. I just want to hear the explanations.
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