When I masturabte, it feels like im about to orgasm but then i have to pull away because the pleasure is so intnse.. its hard to explain but i really want to orgasm but i always pull away before i do.. it just happens.. does anyone know why this could be?
I've never been able to have an orgasm during sex with my boyfriend. I always have to have some form of clit stimulus in order to get off. When I masturbate, sometimes I also get to the real intense feeling that if I lighten up the touch and show down a little it works. Also I went and got a clit stimulus viberator that is awesome!... but try slowing down right at that point and see if that works...
well.... The only way I can get an orgasm is by masturbating....and I have NEVER had an orgasm by intercourse alone. What could be wrong with me.
Hello xoxosallyxoxo I had this problem a long time ago. Inside or outside masturbation? Do you use a toy? If yes use a toy that is less strong. If no use a toy.
I couldn’t achieve orgasm until I had resorted to the help of special supplements for women (there are several, Sentia is the most helpful, as I understand). Now I see that the ability to orgasm is connected with woman’s libido, because I have become more sexy and bold in bed after Sentia. My bf thinks that I simply love him more…
I've never had an orgasm either. I've tried masturbation some but it doesn't do a thing for me. I still feel like it's wrong or something anyway. I don't do anything during oral sex or when my husband touches me down there either. I'm to the point where I don't care if we ever have sex again. As long as I stimulate him to orgasm I'm fine, I don't have to worry about being disappointed. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
nvrhd1 I am exactly the same as you. Touching my genitals has never done anything for me whether by me or someone else. sex gives me no pleasure. I crave it because i like the attention and intimacy but when I am away fom my boyfriend i don't miss it at all. I thought that low libido generally appeared later in life but I seem to have had it since I was 17.
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To nvrhd2 and susie221, have you ever had your hormone levels checked? That's always the first step, some people just naturally have low testosterone or other hormone levels. So getting checked to make sure those are okay is really important.
After that, I would check into zaneblue's orgasm diet. (you can find info at zaneblue.org) but that can give you a place to start on building libido. It has some dietary things you need to do which are pretty normal and healthy (protein with your meals, no refined carbs, sugars, caffeine, etc.) plus adding in high amounts of fish oil (which is also really good for depression, and general brain health). Take a look, it can't hurt!
Past that, there always is a chance of mental, emotional stressors you may be dealing with that could be giving you issues, but that would be something a professional counselor would have to figure out.
I'd definitely get the hormones checked first... if nothing else but to cross that off the list if everything's normal!
[QUOTE]Originally posted by foreverliving: well.... The only way I can get an orgasm is by masturbating....and I have NEVER had an orgasm by intercourse alone. What could be wrong with me.
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Actually 70% of women can't orgasm through intercourse alone... so that's completely normal. If you can orgasm from clitoral stimulation, then that's great! This huge pressure women face with not being able to have "the right" kind of orgasms is kind of silly... and hard on a lot of women because they're perfectly healthy and normal but they think there's something wrong with them.
On the practical side... if you're interested in trying to develop the capability to have vaginal orgasms... I'd check out zaneblue's Orgasm Diet. (you can get info at zaneblue.org) Basically it has some dietary changes that are pretty simple, along with supplements of fish oil. It will help build libido and can help make orgasms easier to reach. It also entails doing Kegels with a resistance device (either a Gyneflex or a Kegelmaster2000). Kegels alone are great, but nothing compared to working with resistance. The Kegel muscles are our sexual muscles. And like any muscle they need to be worked out (although we're not taught about that in P.E. that's for sure!)
Anyway... just some thoughts. You are normal! But there's also ways you can develop your sexual self too if that's your desire.
It's ok to experiment outside of clitoral stimulation, but if it doesn't work, don't get down on yourselves. The Tantra site has good tools for building stronger relationships and have good DVD's and books on different ways to achieve orgasms for women. Also, Zain blue's diet is good. Remember, good sex is good health. Your sex coach is another good site dealing with womens issues pertaining to lack of sex drive or whatever it may be.
Originally posted by ilang-ilang: I couldn’t achieve orgasm until I had resorted to the help of special supplements for women (there are several, Sentia is the most helpful, as I understand). Now I see that the ability to orgasm is connected with woman’s libido, because I have become more sexy and bold in bed after Sentia. My bf thinks that I simply love him more…
Sentia is really very helpful. It's just an epoch-making discovery.
I can't orgasm maturbating unless I have some sort of stimulus, for example, a porn clip or better yet for me, reading a steamy scene in a romance novel. I have never orgasmed having sex, but my b/f understands. So it's ok for me.
Dear Forever Living I agree with Minxxa about diet and orgasm. Once I started eating properly and taking the correct supplements, I found that my general overall health improved and this helped me achieve orgasm. However, it wasn't the only think I tried. I also came across a book at www.easyfemaleorgasm.com that i bought and it really helped me achieve orgasm through intercourse. I don't know if it would help everyone, but its worth a try. Alternatively, there are probably books in book stores that are about how to get turned on more and be more sensual. Personally, I never found that to be a problem, as I am always turned on by my partner. So, finding a step by step guide was really the key for me. Anyway, good luck - it can be achieved!!
I need help, I've been to so many Dr.s and they tell me nothing. First let me explain when I am ready to have an orgasm I get the worst PAIN IN MY HEAD that if I continued I feel like I would Die or end up with a stroke!! There has to be something out there that can help me. Im only 38 and it is ruining my LIFE and my life with my Husband of going on 19 years. The Doctors just look at me and say nothing I really hope that there is someone out there that can help me. I can get close the I have to stop because the pain is so bad that I really would rather die then to feel this pain! Dr. Drew please help me asap I can't take it anymore!!!
Dr Drew doesn't ever come on this site so he won't answer any of you questions here.
Suggest you check out a website that was developed and maintained by someone called Zaneblue. Just do a web search on Zaneblue and you will find her site. Of all of the people I have seen out there that knows more about female sexual health and orgasm problems she is number 1. Her site is free so not a pay thing.
