This is an on and off problem. I am having trouble reaching orgasm, and when I do it's very unsatisfying, like a sneeze, it's almost not there. It feels great building up to it, and then...it's gone. I know I've had one, but, it is so disappointing and I feel very frustrated. I have had very satisfying orgasms in the past, no trouble getting there, and then all of a sudden, they change, and I have no idea why.

I know this is like 4 months after your post but here it goes.
Yeah I've had that probelm before too. Every once in a while (not that often maybe every 6 months). I'll have this earth shattering, toes curling, body numbing orgasm and some (the non-satisfying ones) are enough to make you think "huh? what was that?". So, I think every woman probably has that type of problem. Anybody else have something?

I cant imagine any woman Not having this problem. Nice to know I'm not alone with it, though I've often wondered how I could be the only one. Obviously not. What to do? For me, all I can do is go with what my body is telling me its happy with. If it's mind-blowing once then I can't expect Mt. Kilimanjaro at all times. The human body just isn't that predictable, methinks. Mine has a mind of its own! It's all linked and connected to the other half of of me, my brain and emotions. I do believe this has something to do with it. It's not as simple as people think, especially for females. We need to give credit where its due, our hearts and minds. If they aren't totally engrossed in wheat we're doing it'll change the outcome. Not that it has to be a complex experience, just let go of the idea that it has to be perfect according to your expectations. That isn't real. So, good luck in your pursuit of the best O moments but don't worry over them so much, ok?

Good Morning,
I know this is months later but just seeing it for the first time. And maybe I can help alittle with this. Not sure why but that is normal to have a orgasm that has no BAM to it. I think it has alittle to do with the foods we eat, moods, stress level, the time of the month. I thought when I was young that you could only have one orgasm each time having sex. Then learned that you could have many. You just have to give yourself afew minutes of rest in between. I have found that most of the time the first and the second orgasm is light weight ones and the third one of a huge one. And once you have a orgasm and the bunch is gone it is still lasting for another 60-90 seconds on the inside. Once a male has one it is gone but a female does last that extra 60-90 seconds but you have to look for it. Take your time and try to have afew extra orgasms and see if they are better each time after the first one. And remember that if you don't use it then you will lose it. The more you have sex the more you want sex. Thats the case with anything you do. The less you eat the less you want food after a while. Oh yeah, after having afew orgasms and the male goes inside its the most extreme feeling also. Its not the same as having one orgasm and going inside, thats really nothing. But try the 3-4-5 orgasms and then let him enter. You will see the difference. I hope this helped alittle.

I know this has nothing to do with orgasms, but I have a problem. My guy wants to have a threesome,male or female. He say's it will make our lovestrnger. I don't know if I want to do thsi. Any help? Youngsterone

It's pretty silly to hear that a 3-some will make your love stronger for each other. Get real! I think this guy of yours is watching too many porn movies and his lust for other women is pretty strong!

Youngsterone, don't go for it. It in no way makes your love relationship stronger. It's only an excuse to get someone else involved for a fantasy. If you don't mind it, then I guess go ahead...for me, it just would not work at all.

If he wants to make your love relationship stronger, then maybe he should do a few things for you differently to strengthen that bond...not get someone else to join and divide his attention.