SO here we go again.....:I been married for 2yrs and my husban still can't love just me Treat me like i'm the only one . He cant treat me like his best. Hurt arter Hurt and Hurt. He cheated on me one week after we got married , he cheated on me the summer of our fist year of marriage and now just last weekend again. and the whole time we have been married he was been in love with 2 other woman and clainming to be in love with me. he told me he has been unhappy for years. and i asked him if he was in love with me and he said he did not know . so know i ask what i'm i suppost to do? i have a chiled with this man ....well man i dont know right now.....i desever the best i need to be treated way better than this. so then i ask him what know? if you want to be with me there has to be change i asked him what are you going to do to make us better? whats going to improve ? have is us going to work?he said i'm here i'mm not going anywhere speaking like he is stuck here like he dont have anything else but here , he told me that girl A and girl B dont want him so he said he has nothing...i think to my self what about me? what about our son and what about what we have build in the past 2 years? .....so then he tells me that he want your child to have a good childhood and he wants him to grow up with a family , then he tells me maybe we should get separated....he said maybe he will want me more than ever.... and my response was ...maybe...and i asked....so what if you dont want me more than ever? do we get divorced?....we said we will talk later. than he gets home and acts like everything is okay hes all over me and and wannting to kiss me and talking about what i want to do for Feb.14 in my mind i'm thinking......are you kidding me?...i said that a long time from now , i dont know. Later on that night hes trying to be all over me and everything then hes tells me that i'm beging weird .....he get upset and said to me ...fine i wont touch you then ....i said ...what do you wnat me to do when you just told me we should separate then you come home and act like eveything is okay your all over me holding me kissing me and cuddling with me ?......plus your hands and arms and lips were just with someone else a few days ago how am i suppost to react to that ...he just wants me to act like nothing happend ...i can't do that....i need to know wwhat is going to get better and what is goging to change?.....i cant look at him the same i cant ....i been sitting here just getting hurt and waithing for him to change for me and its not happening all he can tell me is how much he misses her( the one he was with this weekend)and how amazing she is and how wonderfull she is it hurts so so much. He tells me he loves me but how can someone love you and hurt you so much?i love him i have never loved someone so much like i love him i would do anything for him but i have never hurt him like he hurt me.................I'm So STUPID ! !!!
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Wow you really married a real looser! I guess you don't want to hear that you shouldn't have married this bum in the first place as it was obvious that he was messed up from the beginning in his cheating on you the first week of your marriage. What is done is done.

This guy is really taking advantage of you and isn't too concerned about any consequenses that come with his actions. Most wives would throw the guy out on his ear for his actions but you just keep on putting up with it. That's why he isn't too worried about you. I know you are worried about your child and him not having a father in the house. Yes that is a worry that needs to be large in your mind. However I am of the opintion that a child is better to grow up in a loving single parent family than in a broken two parent family.

So what to do? You need to lay down the law for this bum. Make is 100% clear to him that his behavior is absolutely not going to be accepted in the future. He probably needs to go to counsiling to learn how to get his priorities straight. Make it clear that his devotion needs to be to his family and to you. One more slip up and it is over and he is out on his ear. You better be strong on this one and don't give him one little crack to slip through or he will.

I can totally relate to how you feel. I too have a husband who has cheated, multiple times. The thing is, is that you hope and pray for them to change and they may for awhile, but it may not be permanent and you have to be ready for that. Like the other poster said he is taking advantage of you-you have to show him you aren't going to put up with his crap anymore, and believe me with guys like this actions speak much louder than words. Walk out on him if you can, or at least go on with life like he doesn't exist. Show him how well you can do without him and he'll begin to wonder if you could do better on your own. This will drive him crazy and will force his hand, he'll either leave or change. But you do deserve better and don't ever let yourself think anything else!!!!!!!!!!!!! Your baby deserves a mom who knows her worth just as much as he knows how much you love him, remember the way you allow yourself to be treated sets the pattern for how he will treat women in his life. What kind of man do you want to raise, one like his Dad? I think not. Good luck and God Bless.