hi i am new to this but i have a few things i need some advice on? i have had no desire to be with my husband for a while now and i have met another man who is also married and found out that he was a friend of mine at a school when we were like 4 and i haven't seen him since then.didn't even know it was him until i saw the group picture we have and i remebered the name. so we decided to meet one day and he said he was aroused just talking on the phone to me sounded kinda weird so we met and he said that he wanted to get together like have a one night stand i ended up kissing him then we just talked a little bit nothing more happended and then he said he didn't want to,we should just be friends i said okay but he will call every now and then and just talk about nothing. i don't know if he is intrested or just weird. he seems really nice but a friend of mine thinks he has issues.

Your post is kind of strange since you are acting like your only problem you have is to figure out if your old school mate is weird or is a potential new lover for you. This is strange since your real issue that you said nothing about is that you are MARRIED and for some reason have no desire for him anymore. So why are you not trying to fix your relationship with your hubby or if you have given up why have you not taken the proper steps to finish the relationship?

None of this is good. What is your goal?? Do you want a relationship with your husband? or do you want a divorce? those are the two things that must be decided first before having a relationship with another person, not to mention he is also married and this is not a good thing either.

thanks.

honestly i am not sure what i want i have never had feelings this way,but i do know that i love my husband but i am not in love romantically with him any more,i have talked with my gyn and she said says it's just something i am going through.i have been married twice once at 16 divorced at 17. got married to my husband now at 19 and i am 32 now. every one in my family has been married 3 times my mom my dad uncles and aunts.all because of unhappieness.my husband is a very good man and i don't want to hurt him and i know i will if i tell him this.

You really need to search your soul for the root of the unhappiness between you and your husband. You sound as if he is a great man and he has done nothing to deserve the ill feelings you have towards him. Also from your note you talk as if this "runs in the family". Well if I were you I would look in the mirror and tell myself it's time to change the status quo and get busy re-igniting your passion for your husband. You need to realize all long term relationships have periods where the fun and romance take a back seat to routine. If this is something you are missing then do something about it instead of looking elsewhere to get your thrills. I would think twice about telling him about your feelings for your old school friend. Instead why don't you have a nice husband - wife discussion about putting the spark back into your marriage.