well it IS complicated...

Out with some friends last Friday night, my wife is home, and the group is all at a local tavern. At the point I decided to leave, I offered my friend's wife a ride home, and well it took a while to get there....

There had been considerable flirting between us for some time, it was always laughed off by our spouses as innocent fun. And when I asked her if she wanted a ride, I must have had just enough to drink to be brave enough to ask "i bet you'd like more than a ride home". She answered yes. And our the door we flew.

It ended harmlessly, the deed wasn't done. The kissing and pawing doesn't count as cheating, right? At least by Bill Clinton's definition... So she's never been with another man in her life (17 years married). I'm going on 20, and my wife is happily disinterested. In me, or sex with me. She's become asexual over the last 10 years, and it doesn't bother her, despite my pleadings. So for me and my friend's wife, we're both feeling 'needy'.

I haven't stopped thinking about her, and I'm going bonkers trying to manufacture ways of getting near her. In 3 days I've seen her twice in public and we at least managed to confirm that we're ok with the Friday night encounter.

I'm not so much as looking for advice, as much as needing to tell someone my tale. Please spare me the ridicule. I know I'm headed to a bad place here.