I have been married for 6 yrs. This is my second marriage . I have a 6 yr old son and needless to say I am angry at the hubby!!! My son and I never come first ! But if his mom and dad call he is running to be at their side ! No matter what we had planed or what ! I live behind them and when he gets up in the morning its the same routine , Get dressed and head up to moms .they see him more than I do ! But anyway I talked to his Ex wifes Daughter and she told me that when her mom was married to him it was the same thing ! I am so fed up with this . Every once in a while is ok but all the time before he goes to work and after he gets in !!!! until it is 1 hr till my son has to go to bed. He dosent drink I know I should be glad and he dosent do drugs . Well as far as I know . But this has got me to feeling harsh feelings toward him and I dont feel as if I love him anymore ! when he touches me I cringe . just the thought of it I know for me there is NO other man But I am tired of this !!!! I need some advice!!!! quick@!

Have you talked to him about it? Does he understand how it makes you feel? That this situation is effecting you. If he loves you he really would try to change/ modify the visits. Sometimes in these situations they get very defensive and think you are trying to come between them. What he needs to realize is that your family (you and the son) has to come first inorder for things to work. Because you need him and your son needs him. If it doesn't get through, I advise going to counseling because sometimes when they hear it from a third person who is also a professional, it finally clicks.

Good luck. But don't shut him out, because it may drive him furthur away and closer to his parents. Try to come up with fun activities for the both of you.

Yes I have talked to him and told him how I feel and also the way my son feels and I have tried to make plans for us as a family. BUT if mom and dad just so need him they will come first. I have talked to his Ex-wifes daughter and she said he did her mom the same way ! This is NO way to live ! My son and I need a better life ! He acts as if he cares but dose nothing to change if only he would show me I am more than his bed partner I might would feel better !

I would suggest the a counselor for the both of you. I think some insurances pay in part anyways, and even if they don't I think it's worth it if it'll change things.

I can so relate to your situation.My in-laws are the most over bearing and the most nosy people on this planet.When we first got married the phone rang constantly.It drove me batty.They would call just to say that they were going to the grocery store.They didn't like it cause my response was so?They dictate everything to my husband.Especially his mom.When we were building our house the builder quit cause he couldn't deal with her.She took all the joy out of having our home built.Shehad to control the entire process.I know it pisses you off cause he runs to them but the way I've been saving whats left of my sanity is I just don't go around them.I've learned also not to take any of her bs just because she's my husbands mom.Now I've got to apply that with him.I know how you feel I could tell you some good ones put I'll spare you.Its hard to change a mommy's boy you know what I mean?I think they brainwash them starting at birth.He's gonna have to see your point of view and compromise thats the only fair thing to do.I always tell my husband that I bet things that go and get said would not get over looked if it was my family doing it to you.Hang in there and stand your ground.I know thats hard but thats about all you can do with his family members.