My husband is in Japan on business. He called me this morning, which was lastnight for them. He told me they just got in from a night on the town. The boss of the company he is there on business w/ took my husband and his co-workers out for dinner and then to a bar. He said the boss kept getting the waitress to flirt w/ the Amearican guys. Which is my husband and one other guy. My husband was the only married guy there. My husband is a recovering alcoholic (he said he didn't drink & I believe him) but he also said that one of the waitresses got the other American to kiss her on the cheek and wouldn't leave him alone until he did the same. He said he kept telling her (and the other guys) no that he was married, but nonetheless, he did give in. I was a little upset and my husband knows that but I really tried to blow it off and let it go. After we got off the phone I just kept thinking about it and it has really been bothering me. My husband will be over there 3 more days and I'm really uncomfortable about it. He said that he just wanted to come home and didn't want to be in that position anymore (drinking, girls). Am I crazy for being jealous and for being concerned? I really don't think he would cheat but I keep thinking that it would be so easy for him. Like any of his co-workers are gonna tell me, ya know? He even said that one of the Japanese guys made fun of him cause he wouldn't drink and be in on the fun. Please let me know what you guys think.

be proud of him for you two have established a very open and ohnest relationship...theres nothing that he wont tell you, so dont be concerned for if the fear of doubt shall enter the relationship then it will all change...sey... I trust your intellect in telling you that it sounds like he "is" a good man, and the marrage is very strong, so keep your faith...tell him good luck in the trip and dont listen to the other guys...so please dont get upset...like I said be proud of him for he must be as proud of you, for you are alone as well.

Thank you for your advice!! We do have a very open and honest relationship. He just really caught me off guard w/ what happened. The worst thing I thought I had to worry about was him looking at porn while he was gone. I never thought he would be put in this type of situation. I figured the other guys would be drinking but I never thought they would push him to not only drink but to indulge himself w/ another woman knowing he was (happily) married. I have lost all respect for those guys. Something I just thought of...the one Japanese guy that went over w/ them is married as well. His wife and 2 kids still in in Japan and live near where they are working but he doesn't go over to see them. My husband said that the guy's wife told him that as long as he was bringing in the money she didn't care what he did. I guess maybe they are different when it comes to marriage and families. Oh well, thanks again! Sey

Hellow sey...glad to help
yea since you told me about the guy from japan, it sounds like he is in a planned or arranged marrage...they still do that in japan...they can be arranged and wedded in adolecence, and then get together after adulthood/they have no say in this.
other countries practice this as well, but with different versions...Im not shure of the region say roughly in the saudi arabia area, that a man will "choose" a wife from a group and she will be covered from head to toe...and he will never lay eyes on her[appearance] untill after their wedding. wow, go figure huh?

I didn't realize they did that in Japan. That would probably explain why they don't seem attached to their families. My husband called this morning and said they went out after dinner again for "drinks" but the guy that took them out this time had each of the guys a girl waiting on them. My husband left and one other guy left w/ him. He said the guy that took them out has a wife and 1 week old baby and he was out doing this kinda stuff!! My husband is now worried that because he left that he's not going to be looked at the same at work. Japanese (from what I've seen and heard) take their work very seriously and when they do things for you (i.e. take you out for a "good time") and you deny the offer your basically disrespecting them. Which I think is crazy. Anyway, thanks for the info!