Sorry about the weird pictures, I was just playing around and trying to figure everything out, heh.
But... the main reason for this post... My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years on and off. We've had kind of a rough time, but it always seems to revolve around the computer. He spends hours, seriously 6 hours at once playing games or whatever on here. So I already feel bad, like I'm not getting enough attention. I've caught him in the past on websites like "adult friend finder" and "hot or not" chatting with single women in our area. I know that when we broke up he met some girls from online, and had sex with them... WE actually met online when I was 17.
Well, obviously I got really angry about the sites, and I made him stop. He cried, etc... And he really did quit going to them. But he has a myspace account, and I KNOW that he talks to a lot of girls all the time, late at night when I'm sleeping, instead of being with me, he's on the computer. And he LIES about it! And sometimes I check the history... and when I bring things up as "evidence" he just gets pissed off that I'm "spying on him" and yells at me for not trusting him. Which I don't.
I guess my problem is, should I feel bad for looking at the history, and for yelling at him, since he's not actually DOING anything?! It's so frustrating, because no matter what I do, he won't stop getting on myspace. He always tried to say "Well you look at guys on there..." But no! Nope, I never searched for single guys in our area! I never looked at guys with half naked pictures and god knows what they were chatting about. So I deleted my myspace. AUGH I don't know what to do, I can't leave him because I have no family and nowhere to go. Help!

Well I think we can safely say your bf has an addiction he cannot stop. Some are addicted to alcohol, some drugs, your bf is addicted to chatting with sexy singles. He probably would love to stop and honor your desires for him to stop but the forbidden fruit is too tempting for him to stop. Just like many adicts they are willing to loose their relationship rather than stop. All the stuff he is doing (blaming you, denying things, saying you do it too, etc) are all things addicts do. This is the way they convince themselves that what they are doing is ok.

Ok so the good news is that you are not married to this guy. So just cut your ties and move on because to get him to change is a VERY HARD task and even if you get him to change just like other addicts they usually fall off the wagon in the future. If you were married I would recommend you try to fix the problem. But since you are not you still have the option of walking. So walk and walk with a fast pace.