Before everyone jumps on me and assures me that I am crazy for being with him please understand. I have been friends with him since we were 10. Recently, around 3 years ago we reunited and started a relationship. At that time I had a 1 and a half year old son, whom my fiance addored. Unfortunatly my fiance is a drug addict,whos father had recently passed away and it has emotinally shattered our family. We have tried everything- rehab after rehab, nothing works, infact they just make it worse- last rehab he got out of he started shooting roxicotions. While in the middle of a drug bindge he meet a girl who could get him the dope he wanted, They started having a "drug relationship" he admited to me after he came off the highest high that he had cheated on me- but it was just for drugs. I forgave him- mostly because I love him with all my heart, but it had a small part to do with the fact Im pregnant with his baby. Things seemed to have gotten better, he was trying really hard to get clean and be faithful, untill he found out he had a warrent and would have to go to jail for a minimum of 2 months. He fell of the wagon and met a 30 year old women with a husband and 2 kids who has a liquid hook up to the drugs he wants. I dont know if I should think the same thing is happening or not,she knows about me, and calls the house to see if he is here. I love him so much and like I said I am carring his child. I dont know if I should cut my losses, his family is more like my family, and I still love him and care for him with all my heart. please if anyone can advise or give a word of wisdom, my heart is breaking- he stays out all night at their house and stumbles in the door at 5:30 am like nothing happend.
thanks,
Broken hearted

well if he has cheated on you then maybe you 2 need sometime off and if that doesn't work like you said he is a drug addicted person which means you might need to let him go for the sake of your baby. and if you can't do that then maybe you just need to find a place other then rehab and help him out of drug addiction because if you don't it may be bad for his son.i hope you will take this under consideration.

Well you certainly have a major mess on you hands. Things were not a big problem until you mentioned you did something really dumb in getting pregnant by a guy with a major addiction you are not married to.

So here is the skinny. He sounds like he has a major problem on his hands with his addiction. Yes I understand he had things happen to him that caused his addiction but that doesn't excuse his actions. And this is not just an addiction - he has warrants, will spend jail time, cheats on you to get his fix, etc etc. Bottom line is he is not anywhere near being responsible enough to be a husband for you or a father to your children. Your primary focus on life is to be the best parent you can be to your two children. Having this guy in your life at this time will not be a good thing for you and the kids. The only way this guy should be able to come back into your life is if he gets sober, is able to maintain a job and shows you that his addiction is a thing of the past and he is ready to be a responsible parent and husband. Until that time (if ever) I would keep my distance from him and move on.