I recall reading under a "locked" topic a concern women have for men seeing pornography and their being in state of confusion as to why men feel a need to see these images. I was tickled about the National Geographic concern of native photos as well.
As boys we almost exclusively had access to firstly Sears catalogs and second National Geographic magazines. I often wondered if our girls/women really did physically look (breasts and all) like the natives seen in the pictures.
Although as an adult I've never bought a copy of a girly magazine nor satisfied myself to a longer than normal look (5 seconds) at the quick store's counter there was a time during the elementary grade years when a couple of buddies and myself discovered weather-worn copies behind our houses on a public easement. We went back for looks often until they were melted away by the rain. Many years later I assumed these had been left there by some teen-aged boys who may have retrieved them from some method of disposal.
So I can say that I have viewed them in my early years without "contamination" into adult usage or other avenues. What women don't seem to get is that men's sexual awareness and temporary satisfaction often consists of just seeing them--even clothed.
This situation reminds me of some old church congregation buildings that I never understood. Maybe you've seen them too where there are two entrances, one for men and the other for women where they sat separated inside as well. Ten years ago this was a complete mystery to me.
I can only liken the situation to bathing suits of the 1920s where they came down ankle low, going up to the knees and now--well, take a look! This brings me to believe we have been moved into a time of constant sexual awareness but at the same time we are told a 14-year-old "dressed like that" shouldn't get our attention. This is a situation any man will find trouble to ignore except with much practice or a wife handcuffed to his wrist.
Any questions?
Husbandjilt
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I once had a friend make the remark, "God made women so cute so we wouldn't hurt 'em."
At the time this remark seemed make sense on its face value. Women are generally better looking to me than men appear hands down. Even an attractive (pretty?) male still exudes manly features in less body fat, facial features and muscle tones. So, what are we really talking about when men say women are "cute"?
I have come to believe that women have much less hair, are slimmer built (in most cases) and men love female control and submissiveness. The later is similar to hunting and kill (submissive) but in a different way. Consider the sexual role of men/women in pursuit and "being caught". Making approaches (men) and being caught (women) in my opinion has a lot to do with a natural instinct in men to hunt.
On the other level, due to the physical look of women and children features (less hair, facial "innocence", small features, etc.) all can be "cute" in that way. As a Father I'm the one who has to put a check on my 12-year-old daughter's public clothing choices. In such considerations I really don't think my wife gets it.
(Another point in the relation to men hunting is the label heard so often today and nearly always applied to men only--"predator". Never heard a female called that even in all the teacher/student abuse cases last year.)
Husbandjilt
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A women`s first priority of the day is to turn as many male heads their way with smiles. They may act annoyed, but not nearly as annoyed if you ignore them. All the time spent in front of the mirror was for nothing if it doesn`t get the desired results. Better that they start off having a bad day than me. Don`t get me wrong, I ain`t easy, But I can be had! Last but not least , who wants to play a game where the rules keep changing? Women are the ones who keep asking " where are all the nice guys?" Enjoying a nice Quiet Life that requires low maintenance. A women greatest advantage is distance: at 50` they can really catch your eye, the closer they get, the uglier they can get. Now, let them move their lips and all a man can do is throw his arms up and walk away.
I see there are no comments by other men on pornography and thereby I have exhausted and given the point of it all with completeness. Any women who want to join the discussion can enlighten as to their own gender's responsibility.
I'm aware there are some man magazines out there but not many--curious. Any of you got the courage to admit there is an interest.
Husbandjilt
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I can not speak for all women but for me a man is much sexier when he has clothes on. I do not find naked me appealing at all. But a man who is dressed nice and clean cut is very sexy especially if he is wearing a nice smile and a dimple in his chin.
Husbandjilt, I am just really suprised that with all that you've been through you have such a rational and profound perception of things. I don't have kids yet, but I respect that you choose to take on the responsibility of protecting your daughter by policing her clothing. No little girl has ever worn anything that makes her deserve to be raped or molested. I can't subscribe into the theory that when females wear certain outfits they are asking to be sexually assaulted. However, I do believe that women have to be realistic in knowing that a lot of men will typically find pleasure in looking at girls/women when they dress provocatively. It is just a good policy, in my opinion, to only dress in a manner that you are comfortable receiving and dealing with the attention that it provokes. I firmly believe that a lot of young girls dress provocatively because the attention they get makes them feel pretty and boosts their self esteem. If I had a daughter I would try to teach her other ways to get the positive attention that makes her feel good.
