I have met a married man on a 'swinger's website'. We both posted profiles there out of desparation b/c our sex lives are unfulfilled but neither of us wants to leave our marriages. We have been writing back and forth for 2 months now. We live about an hour apart and are both very busy w/ our work and families but still we are writing and, now calling, each other. I never thought I would actually act on my fantasy to have "wild passionate sex" with someone I met on the internet but we are headed dangerously close to meeting in person. I just wanted to know what others out there would do? I know this is bad and immoral but it excites me too and I have so much pent up sexual desires . Just wanting some advice. Be kind please.

ok...I'll be kind.
GET A DIVORCE!!!
....my wife had only made love to me twice in one year, at which time I left her, coupled with other reasons...yet, I did not "stray".
so make a decision.

Just read your post..Yes I can understand pent up feelings..but you are also correct that you may be headed for disaster.I was married 19 years
the first 3 great, the middle oh-ha w/kids//the last 8 years a living hell..I never cheated but wanted to during that time .

The danger is not in wanting to..The danger is the doing.Its a case of a man or woman crossing a bridge that has caught on fire. Once you cross you can never go back. Thats not to say that a decision should not be made to leave or not to leave. But this decision should be made on level ground, not crossing a bridge. I came close to crossing that bridge many times,did not and now glad of my choice. I'm now divorced from that relationship and happily married 6 years.

My advise? Decide what you want in life before putting on hiking shoes. In the meantime buy a "toy" there are plenty of websites out there/
It might not be as fun,but certainly less dangerous than crossing a burning bridge.

My 2 cents

TY for your responses. I broke off communication w/ that man and felt a load lifted off my shoulders. I even confessed what happened to my husband. Surprisely he was very understanding! One thing we do have is honest communication. I have been very honest ( sometimes it seems so hard to do) about my feelings . Even though all the problems are there, we are communicating about them. What happens next?? Time will tell. Anyway, I know that would of been a mistake and would of just complicated my life further. I admit I have had withdrawals from this form of 'adultery'. It can be very addictive and I see how people easily go all the way , leave marriages/family, for a promise of something better.