Men please enlighten me!
I realise that men treat porn materials (any kind of media) as a necessity in their lifes. Even the nerdiest of all men does that! I don't mean to be rude but I kind of understand when they are bachelors or single (as they are physically created such by god. Their sexual organs are more obvious than of womens' and so their sexual needs also tend to be more obvious and visual) but why do it behind your gfs' or wives' back? (We humans do things behind our fellow humans' back to hide something from them and also with the knowledge that we are doing something really very wrong, so you guys out there, you know that it's wrong!) Why not enjoy sex together (with your spouse) with or without porn materials? I just don't seem to get it. I am sure any woman would think " Is my bf or husband not happy with me, is that why he is watching other women?" or " Is he aroused by other women so much that he is gonna try doing other women after watching all this (ehhmm) rubbish?" We women are not insecure or jealous to ask these questions. We are just afraid our marriage would fail for nothing absolutely nothing! Worst still when some of the rubbish on the internet includes wives of other men....and some terrible comments and remarks...All these activities are moving beyond nature ....like as if the world is coming to an end... Yes you may be right by saying if women think thus then why are they also involved in such materials? Money is the only answer. Has money become so important that we lose control of oursleves? Sometimes I feel the creations of man (as in humans) are really luring him towards his own distruction..."FRANKENSTINE"
ehhmm I guess I am becoming too emotional here..
Sometimes I wonder.. why get into a relationship or marriage if you are still fascinated by other womens' bodies? just stay single and enjoy it on your own and don't hurt anyone else! Whoever started porn hmmm... god bless HIM! Sorry if I had hurt anyone's feelings!

so! as I had said in another topic..."wow-such two dimentional thinking".
"We are just afraid our marriage would fail for nothing absolutely nothing!"
so...end of story.

Nothing as in unworthy or mere rubbish

its your quote, not mine.
so, go figure.

The simple answer is yes. As a biology major and a medical student I believe the drive for a man to persue his sexual desires is so deeply programmed in our genetics that we are almost helpless. Our thoughts about sex are out of our control much in the same way a woman can have mood swings from all their hormones. The only problem for men is that our hormones (testosterone) are almost always at maximum level.
It's not an excuse though. I can still understand that porn can hurt a woman very badly. Like you said, it brings up questions about whether their husband or boyfriend will ever commit adultery. Although many men have affairs I don't think you can say porn leads them down that road. A healthy sexual relationship has a hugh emotional aspect that porn will never touch. When a man is looking at porn it's simply his lustful desires coming out and to me sharing that emotional aspect would be more hurtful.
Whether porn is good or bad doesn't really matter because I don't think man will ever change. I guess all we can do is learn to control it more as we get older.

Porn is not a necessity. I've dated several men in my life who did not need porn. I've also dated men who "needed" it all the time. I even had the misfortune of dating a man who liked child porn (I almost threw up when I found out and then I ran as fast as I could for the relationship exit door)!!!!

After dating many different people, I realized that my lifetime marital partner would have to be someone that was not into porn. So I looked for that guy and found him.

My husband doesn't do strip clubs, Playboy or computer porn. He appreciates the R rated movie nudity. We've watched a couple of dirty movies together.

I couldn't be happier in our relationship and our sex life is great!

shabad:

Good for you and your husband. It sounds like you never forgot the luster on your wedding night! Keeping that spirit and experimenting up will keep him from watching porn, looking at other women, and pleasing you.

I am very envious now knowing some man is going home to find his better half in a skimpy outfit with a smile on her face. YEs, he will have flowers and the mustard cleaned off his shirt.

For some it becomes a necesity for sexual gratification. Some men begin to prefer masturbating to porn over actual sex with another person.

porn needed in life? not really. Sex however is importent on both sides, specially in a relationship.

Well what else is a man to do.
For instance in my situation, my wife told me that her desire for sex has decreased. Therefore, I get in trouble if she finds my porn, I get in trouble if I had sex with someone else, and I get in trouble if I try to get her to have sex. I need some type of sexual outlet and hiding my porn helps.