im curious on what ppl think on this. im a 20 yr old college student and theres a guy im friends w/ and hes helped me through a lot w/ all kinds problems(guys, parents ect) ive known him for 3 or 4 yrs- he's 28 and married for about 4 yrs, i also know his wife. well about 6 months ago we started joking around a lot about flirting and stuff b/c i havent dated anyone in a while and my flirting skills need or needed a little work and he's got a flirty type of personality anwyay. so he kind of worked w/ me on it and i started seeing someone this summer, but we broke off before school started. well during that time we got really close and talked all the time. even to the point we started talking about our fantasies and looking at lingerie hed like me in and even a little dirty talking. well we had a joke going that i owed him for whatever reason and we played along w/ that. we never crossed that physical line-per say- until one time recently. we met and it went farther then i expected. we didnt sleep together and have never kissed, just fooled around- he was in clothes and i was in lingerie. it all just happened, i seriously didnt mean for anything to go anywhere. im still shocked i even thought about or did cross that line. as far as i know hes never done anything much like this before. how much is this considered cheating? we're still friends and talk, i see him every week- its almost like nothing has happened and it was just a side thing. and is it that easy to be lead astray? or lead someone. i dont think of myself at all as that type of girla nd frankly ahve never done or thought of doing that til this happened. i was actually surprised it went how it did just b/c of his postion at where i know him from and how well he knows my family. just wanted thoughts.

Put yourself in his wife's shoes. If he were your husband and he did that with another women..would you consider it cheating? I know if it were my husband I sure would. As a matter of fact...aside from the fooling around thing...I would consider the relationship you have with him cheating as well. In my opinion...an emotional relationship with someone else is worse than a sexual one. Sex is just sex and that can me forgotten, but if you've connected on an emotional level, that is more damaging and threatening to his marriage. Just turn the tables. Would you want this done to you? Probably not.

I agree with cabins513. Lust is defined as allowing yourself to imagine sexual experiences in your head (including touching), and scanning another person's body with your eyes, deliberately looking at their physique (basically undressing them in your mind). They say that when you lust in your heart, it is the same as commiting the act. Imagine how his wife would feel if she heard you two joking and saw you two messing around. Yes, it is still cheating.

Yes definitely. If you are not that kind of woman than what the heck were you thinking? Would you want that going on in your relationship with your significant other? I don't think so. Anytime a man gets to joking around like that, he is fishing to see how much he can get away with. It was wrong on his part to take advantage of you like that and it was wrong for you to allow it to happen. Shame on you, find a nice man around your age and make sure he is NOT married.