I have been married over a 1 1/2 year now. We use to live with one another. But we had to part ways. Now we started seeing one another again. Our relationship is great. Except for one thing his anger. No he doesn't hit me. But its just the way he yells at me. He calls me a dumb b**** . He got mad at me because I have made a friend and I'm over there all the time. Even though he has no reason to be jealous. I had forgotten that he was coming over yesterday. If I had remembered(which I swear to god that I didn’t remember discussing him coming over), Which I was at my friends house. He came over all mad at me. There wasn't dinner ready or anything. He yelled and yelled some more. He even throws things. I have been in an abusive relationship before this actions scare me immensely. What upsets me the most is he knows he has a problem and he just doesn't do anything about it. I mean I know that he is a thug. Those types of people are real hard to love. But I have managed to find me one to love. I just don't know how someone can treat you so bad and still say they love you and want to marry you. I told him to get anger management, take some time alone do something. I just can't do it anymore. This type of relationship is so unhealthy. Sometimes I just figure he will never be able to control it. He normal will not break a promise. He is pretty good about that. He is pretty good about saying he’s not going to do something and not do it. I just don't want to live my life like this anymore and I'm afraid its will just happen again.
Maybe I should just end it now.

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here...let me help you with the door, and none the sooner.

Well both of you have one thing in common - you both want to save your marriage and learn to be happy together. However his actions keep that from becoming a reality. I am guessing if you sat him down and asked him what he would be willing to do to keep his marriage with you he would say anything. If this is the case you need to make it loud and clear that his actions from him not being able to control his anger is a deal breaker and if he stays the same you will not agree to move forward with him. So if he agrees to "do what it takes" to salvage his marriage you have to get him to agree to seek help for his problem - and yes that means seeing a theropist. I am guessing he will not agree to this and if so just stick to your guns and don't allow him to stay in the relationship unless he agrees. If you give him any way out of not having to see a theropist he will certainly not do it.