My husband of 3 years, decided the other day to venture out to a strip club to enjoy life??? i have 2 problems with this, I know that it is human nature for men to view porn or exotic dancers. Married and single men and women have done it for years, my problem is it over the line when you are lied to about going there. He says it was to protect my feelings and not hurt me. Second, he liked a certain dancer there and wanted to find out when she is working again so he would not waste his time going when she is not working. He tried calling the club but got no answer. So what he did is exchanged phone numbers and she called him back and guess who picked up the phone. Now he says this is innocent and he just enjoys her work and to not make anything out of it. Am I right to be angry and how do i make him understand what he did is disrespectful and dishonest.

If I was in your position, i wouldn't believe him at all. First, he lies to you about the strip club because he didn't want to hurt you. Second of all, he says that there is nothing else between them too but he still searching around for her and constantly talking to her. All of this means that he might be interested more on her than just the 'job'. Once again, this is my opinion. SOme people are different and stay with that person who is just lying to the innocent person in order to get a little adventure. Stand up for yourself and try to tell him that you will not put up with this. If you are married, is only to stay with that person, not to share around.

I wish you the best and hopefully everything works out for you and your husband. Take Care!

My husband was in Alabama a couple months ago with his ship. He went to a strip club and said he got a lap dance. He was honest about it after I brought up the subject. But for some reason he doesn't think he has done anything wrong because he said it not like he had sex with this woman. and he also said his friend paid for the dance for him. I still don't think it was right. Should I just get over it or try to make him realize how bad I feel about it?

Hi jazzymom2, well I feel that the majority of the womans would get mad if their husbands are getting a lap dance by a different woman (at least I would too). If I was in your position, I would tell him how bad I feel about what has happend and that you wouldn't like it to happen again. try to let him know how you really feel and that he should respect you even though that you are not around while he is with his friends. The good thing is that he told you the truth. Some men would lie about it, and probably do it again and again.

Good Luck.