on what you saw on the show.

I am a single women in my late twenties. I think that this show is very education for people who are not married because it provides a great reality check. As a devout Christian of many years, I have noticed that fellow single Christian peers talk as if marriage is supposed to be a panacea for loneliness and that a marriage between two people of faith will not have its share of problems. Watching this show has solidified my resolve to develop a realistic and nurturing approach to my boyfriend and to learn to appreciate him. It is hard to be content in the relationship after the honeymoon period. I am thankful that we talk about our issues up front and I don't know if we will end up marrying. We haven't been dating for a long time. But, it is good to see Dr. Robi coach the couples through their troubles and to encourage them to talk things out rather than bury them. It is good to know that we are on the right relational track and that regardless of who we marry, we are going to make good spouses.

"Miss," I was naive enough to believe back in December of 1992, I wouldn't be going wrong in marrying a "baptized member" of my church of that time. As it happened, I ended up serving divorce papers on her just 16 months after our wedding on grounds of spouse abouse and other conduct that was utterly unbecoming of a Christian.

I was certainly reliving those days as I watched the April 2 One Week to Save Your Marriage episode this morning. (As I mentioned elsewhere on this board, I'm recording these episodes and using them as a preparation tool for what I hope will be a much more successful second marriage between my present "best woman friend" and me.) Here, Dr. Ludwig achieved remarkable success in getting the couple involved to change their past wrong behavior toward each other, but, sadly, my first wife of years ago was not willing to change, and I ended up having to divorce her in order to maintain my own personal walk with God (Hebrews 12:1).

Of course, I learned many lessons from that first failed marriage of mine and through the years since, and there is much more advice I could give to you than I have room for on this board. Suffice to say, you'll want to make sure this "boyfriend" of yours is in fact a fully mature, adult MAN who will truly love you, provide for you, care for you, and help you in your own personal walk with God.

You'll also want to find one or more good counselors you can discuss whatever concerns you may have about a prospective mate. Hopefully these people can include your parents and other members of your family as well as someone in the church you attend each week. (Incidentally, I consider myself blessed in that regard -- the pastor of my own church has been happily married to his wife for 37 years, and we also have in my church the minister who baptized me back in 1975 who has been happily married to his wife of 63 years, so both of them would be very good sources of pre-marital counseling for my "best woman friend" and me.)

My best wishes to you and your future

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