Ok, so I feel somewhat guilty right now posting this. I've been a member in here for awhile, and you guys give some really great advice (as do I) So I had a problem that I posted on the Date Patrol forum, but it's not as popular as this one, and no one responded. I know this question has nothing to do with fashion or beauty, but I'm sure you guys will have something to say. Thanks guys, here was the post I wrote:

Well tomorrow night some friends and I are going to the bar. My crush (I feel so teenish saying that) is going to be there. I have sent him so many signs and he's just not reading them. He tells the group he really likes me and wants to give "US" a shot. So I take a step closer and send him some extremely obvious signs. It's like he's completely blind, and doesn't read anything I send. What am I doing wrong? Or is it him? What's my next move, should I just move on or stick it out until he gets it? Any advice from you guys would be really appreciated. Thanks!

Ta'Ta
xoxo

Sorry about such a long post!

well, when you say you gave him signs, what exactly do you mean? sometimes guys can be kinda dense when it comes to "picking up signs". if your source of information about him being interested is reliable, then you might need to just ask him directly. just say, "hi would you like to go out for (insert item here) sometime?" right then and there you will have your answer, and you can move on from there.

Mouse gives good advice, and I hope you follow it. Maybe it's because I'm not a teenager anymore and I'm happily married, but the whole intrique/flirting/consulting friends thing sounds so exhausting to me.

I say, shoot from the hip, take the direct (but never overly domineering) approach and see what happens.

Flirting is all good and well - I don't mean to imply one should just march up to everyone they meet to get things going in a hurry. But...the flirting obviously hasn't worked in this case. So...go for it. Something will either come of it or it won't. Have fun!

Thanks for the advice guys. When it comes to signs, I use subtle hints, but I thought they were strong enough for him to read. Eye-contact, touching his arm, calling him and what not. My sources are very reliable. everyone tells me that all he seems to talk about is me. The only problem here is that I'm the kinda of girl that is less aggressive and lets the guy ask me out. Is this wrong? I think maybe breaking out of my shell and being more aggressive would work. But how long should I wait and see if we'll work. i don't wanna start dating someone new and all of a sudden he's ready to date.

Thanks again
Ta'Ta
xoxo

belive me when i say i know what you mean. i have let far too many guys slip through my fingers waiting for them to make a move. there is absolutely nothing wrong with a girl asking a guy out. yea its not as romantic as the idea of a guy sweeping you off your feet, but sometimes a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do. it sounds like hes shy as well, so if two shy people like each other and keep waiting for the other to make a move, nothing will ever come of it. strike while the iron is hot baby, before the heat dies down.

I think you've got some great advice so far. I would only recommend that you plan exactly what you're going to say when you're asking him to do something private together. A way that I've found that seems to work (and is still not putting yourself completely on the line) would be to say that you have tickets to a play, show, concert, etc that friends gave you and are wondering if he'd like to go to it with you. If it's something that you know he's interested in...even better. Have the date be fairly soon so you won't have to agonize for two weeks before the event and it will also sound more spontaneous.

Good luck and go for it!

Just tell him youlike hime!

Thanks to everyone for thier supportive advice. I'll take it into consideration (I won't wait too long though)

Ta'Ta
xoxo

When it comes to subtle hints..they are not too smart in that department. Guys are also as shy and unsure as we are. Ask him out. You know he likes you...so what's the problem? Show him you're more aggressive then him (guys like that) and ask him out. I did, with a stupid guy who doesn't get the simple hints...and we've been dating for three years now