How are you and your spouse managing the change? Have you been able to focus on just the two of you... or is there difficulty in defining parent vs. spouse roles? What works... What doesn't, and how to make it better?

Three kids into this journey, I consider myself a seasoned mom. You have to remember to make time just for you & hubby. We have a weekly date night. It's important to remember that after the kids are gone you will still be there together. So don't let your hubby become a stranger. We are always growing & changing into our new roles as parents, so try to take it easy on your hubby as far as the resentment issue goes. Believe it or not, he may be feeling the same way. The important thing to remember is that you're in this together...no matter how stressed out you get. Try giving yourself a time-out & say & think only nice things about your hubby. Chances are you'll start feeling better about the situation & you might even remember why you're with hubby in the first place.

Our son will be one year this coming May. What an exciting and interesting year it has been! However, among all the change, our sex life is not what it use to be. This was to be expected, but how do you get your sex drive back? I am either to exhausted or just simply do not feel sexy anymore!! I want it to be more often, but I just don't know what to do to make me feel that way. We do a date night once a week or every two, and well really that's the only thing we do to try. Please help?!

I have an 11 week old daughter and two step children that we get once a week overnight. My husband just started a new company. He spends about 14-16 hours a day on this new company and yet whether I feel like it or not I usually just give in and we end up becoming intimate at least 5 times a week. It is extreemly exhausting however so is arguing about it. My husband desperately wants another child right away but I really don't want two children under 2 plus 2 step-children. With the way my last pregnancy went I ended up on bed rest at 7 months, so until my daughter can walk, I'm really trying to avoid it. Even when I was pregnant and on bed rest, my husband took it as a sign that we were meant to have sex almost constantly through that time. Yes I know, he's a ruthless horn dog and I just give in too much and the way we are going I will be pregnant in a year seeming I got pregnant on birth control last time. I find it almost impossible to find any no sex quality time with him because he is so consumed with the new company but I constantly ride him to give the children and I all his attention when we have his two the one night a week. Sometimes he can and sometimes he can't and I try to be a little more passive when he can't. Never lose sight of why you guys are together and always work hard to a higher goal. And please let me know how you guys got your hubbies to slow down on the sex drive. Because what I thought to be expected, just never happened.