Its always about the money, if it weren't we could all be beautiful and feel good about ourselves and not just the 19 year olds who have never had kids. Its like you have to be rich to be attractive. I can't even afford the initial visit. I probly could have already paid for a tummy tuck with all the money I've spent on products and gimicks that promised to make me loose this abdominal fat that I STILL have to look at and will for the rest of my life. I stay so mentally beat down because everytime I pick up a magazine, everytime I turn on the TV, even just driving down the road I have to look at these teeny tiny size 5 women with no stretch marks and flat little stomachs. I am constantly reminded of how ugly and imperfect I am. This is the price we pay for bringing children into the world. Horrible, irrepairible damage to our bodies. What grotesque changes do men go through when they make babies, NONE. You don't see any men posting on this site do you? I can't imagine what Gods decision making process is. "This one is going to be skinny and but beauitful, this one is going to be heavier and ugly, this one is going to be heavier but fairly attractive, this one is going to be fat and ugly, this one is going to be model perfect and drop dead gorgeous" etc. etc. I'm 39, am fairly attractive in the face but look hideous from the ****s down. I can't wear a swim suit, the low cut jeans that are so in style or any of the cutsey little tops that show a little peek of your midsection. I've hated myself for a long time, and it feels like there is nothing to look forward to down the road. My self image effects numerous areas of my life. I won't even have sex with my husband unless its dark in the room. I'm very depressed and hopless and there is no light at the end of this tunnel. All I'd like is a to feel normal.