Love Tracey Gold, and she looks terrific! However, Tracey, you have "hoods" like me. I'd never heard of that term until I realized I had them. It's the extra skin that begins to cover your eyes after a certain age. A little nip/tuck on those eyes will make you appear more alert and happy, as the hoods give you a dour look. Even without an eye job, you are lovely inside and out.
I am a little surprised at you MarydaleED. Here we are in a forum where we all can uplift each other and support each other as women and moms; and the first thing you do is mention plastic surgery! Is it impossible to take this time to take our hair down, makeup off, and just be proud to be the wonderful, unperfected women we are meant to be? Why is being happy with yourself as it is a hardship? Women stress themselves everyday with images of perfection and what drives us to it more than a man is a woman who turns her nose up at the other.
Since plastic surgery isn't something that's going to help most of us get through our days as moms... let's just move on.
The question is: How do YOU do it?
My answer: With a lot of help! I'm a WOHM and I couldn't make it without the help of family and friends. Grandma watches my munchkin during the day, friends help schedule fun things to do for nights and weekends, my sister provides babysitting for Moms Night Out every other month. Without close ties and supportive relationships, I'd be lonely and isolated. Instead, I have a circle of people around me and my child who love us, look out for us, support us and keep us going.
I don't know any mom that goes it alone without the support of family and friends. I am a SAHM. I love it. My husband works 10-12 hr days in the winter and a lot more then that during the summer. At the last minute he can be called out of town for a stretch of a couple weeks. It sux. Needless to say, school is a big plus for me...lol...My son is a 1st grader and my daughter is in Kind. For as horrid as it may sound, i sometimes feel as though school outside of the home was actually made to keep the mothers sanity....lol ;p I love my kids so much though. But they are at the age where they pick fights with eachother, and well my parents seem to like to handle that one, and you know they do it so well too. So much better then i can. Thank goodness for speaker phone...lol!!! I guess thats because i'm just mom to them. Speaking of that. Moms, do you ever feel like that. That you are JUST MOM? How in the world to YOU handle that and get through it?
Hi. I'm new here. I'm a WAHM with 2 1/2 yr old. My only support are in-laws and one friend. I was actually relieved to read that you need outside help to remain sane. My screen name says it all. Thanks for the support!
How do we do it? I really don't think there is a better answer of than, we just do. I don't have cable T.V. and have never heard of this show until I was sitting in the dentist office and saw an add for the show on their T.V. Lol! I have a hard time making time to actually watch tv and keep up with the flow of my day with two kids. I think since I began writing this response, the kids have ate their dinner, managed to ask me around ten questions each about the mechanics of a pen to how many hairs are on their head. Its funny how fast dinner can go when mom is trying to sneak in five minutes alone and other times, usually when there is something green on the plate, it takes them hours. Gotta love them! I think that is how we do what we need to. There is nothing that couldn't stand between those seconds of stopping everything to handle a dramatic breakdown because "there are two more goldfish in his baggy than there is in mine", or wiping those tears from your childs eyes because they don't understand. We do it because they are what makes us. I am very excited to keep up with the show and get some pointers. I know I don't have all the knowledge but know I can learn. -A loving parent
I have four kids ages 8, 6, 2, and almost 1. I have no outside help. My husband suffers from severe depression so he doesn't help much. I don't get out without the kids very often. My husband doesn't like to go out. I love spending fun time with the kids like going to the park and so on. I tried home schooling the older two and even though I could teach them what they needed to know I felt the school was able to offer them a lot more than what I could do when I was pregnant and had a one year old and after I had my baby and so I had an infant and a two year old. I wish I had family to help out and just to enjoy being around. I'm glad that I have my immediate family. I've always babysat or waitressed in the evenings one or two nights a week when my husband was home. I've never had to put my kids in daycare or get a babysitter. After next week I'm not babysitting any more. I want time with my kids to be time with MY kids. I need to brind in some extra money though. I don't like when I leave as soon as my husband is home because we don't spend much time together as it is. I'm thinking of finding a job that would just be a few hours a week. If I could work late morning then my older two would be in school and I could get a babysitter for my younger two and they take a long nap late morning as it is so it wouldn't even be much time away. What do you all think? I'd love any ideas. I want to put a lot of thought into it before I make a decision. Thanks.
Caligirl99: How is the economy in your area? If it's good, start looking for part-time work when you're available or work from home like I do. I do medical transcription for an MD and do my typing when my 2 yr old naps or behaves (what am I thinking? 2 yr olds rarely behave) LOL. On the stay at home part, this is the first for me, as I'm a career girl, but gave up the career to have kids. For ME, I've learned I'm a better parent when I work outside the home and have that social interaction with grown ups. Back to the job part, figure out what work you'd like to do, check your local papers and things on line like monster.com or jobs.com. Good luck!
Not sure if Im doing this right, but here goes...i watched the episode last night about Katie the chef. I was moved to tears! I 100% think she made the right decision. Katie, if you're reading this, you will get that chance once again, no doubt. God will reward you tenfold for choosing to stay home and raise your children the way you always intended to do. I'm a RN that chose to forgo a Master's degree for now, as I too have two young boys (3 & 1). I work per diem and fully plan to go back to obtain that nurse practitioner degree once they are in school.
Squeakers02... I feel you on school being invented to keep mothers sane . As far as being just mom, don't you still think of your mother as mom no matter how old you get?
I'm new to posting online - so please bear with me - I hope this works. I just believe this is such an important topic, I decided to join in. Anyway, this message is really for all those who have chosen to stay at home to raise their children. I comend all of you and hope you receive the support you need for making that choice! It is an investment you will not regret. I'm sure you've all guessed, I was a stay at home mom and there is not one minute I would trade for that privilege - and it is a privilege. My heart goes out to those who want so desperately to be able to stay at home and for any number of reasons, just can't. The whole thing about staying home you need to remember is, it is a choice and you do sacrifice certain things. When we were young, I didn't go shopping a lot - we had nice things...but I made my curtains, we didn't go out for pizza once a week like other people we knew, we didn't go on vacations every year, we had and still have used cars(decent but used). As my husbands career progressed, things got easier. I had a number of part time jobs - bookkeeping at home, teachers' aide (same schedule as my daughters) and when my daugher was in 6th grade started to sell real estate - again - it was for the most part, flexible - I was at her track meets and there for her when she needed me - so it worked great. As far as personal fulfullment - that comes from the inside -you need to believe in yourself and never doubt for a minute that you have made the right choice. I absolutely believe every women should be trained and knowledgeable about finances and etc. I believe stay at home moms should always keep their skills updated as much as possible while they are raising their children. With internet, that is getting easier all the time. Children grow up so fast - mine are both on their own now and we have a fabulous relationship - built on trust and respect and there isn't a day that goes by that I'm not thankful for the time I was able to spend with them. The time you have with them will go by like the blink of an eye! So, for the weary stay at home mom...hang in there - you won't regret your decision! There is so much I could say on this subject, but need to get going. For those people who think they can have it all - not a chance - something has to give and it's usually the kids who get short changed because the boss needs you to do the job you were hired for. If you have no choice but to work - then when you have time off - spend it with your children not at the bar or off on a spa day for yourself. My husband was a hosptial CEO and at one hospital they had a daycare...nothing grieved him more than having to deal with parents who worked all week long...and then on Friday couldn't pick their kids up on time because they needed to get in their "social" time.
I survive through the love and compassion of my husband. He is in the military and I have a huge amount of respect for him. He supports me in everything I want to do. He sends me on women's retreats with our church and gives me so much more on a daily basis. I return the favor any way I can. I love staying home. I do think that it is not very fulfilling to my adult mind however. So that's where my activities come in. I attend MOPS BSF And am a mentor with Young Lives Getting out of the house and being involved in my community not only helps my self esteam and well being but it also gives my children a chance to socialize. All of these programs are avialable to working and stay at home moms. If anyone has any questions, I would be happy to answer them!
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. As far as being just mom, don't you still think of your mother as mom no matter how old you get?
