I'm new so I hope you guys don`t mind me asking this.
If you have a question which is specifically directed to Mike and you waited and waited but never get an answer. How do you feel?
If you logged on ....and realized he is there! So you try to bump your post excitedly (that the only thing you can hear is the sound of your heartbeat) expecting to see a response......only to find your post slowly going down...down...until it reaches the second page...all hopes are gone.
Do you feel that probably your question is too lame and doesn't deserve an answer from “him”?
How do you accept rejection with grace?
Dear wiser and more experienced members I need your advise.....and lots of huggies .......and a big box of kleenex.
You consider this as rejection. That means you feel personally offended. I don't think Mike intends to offend anyone.Maybe you are taking this a little too seriously. I like a response too , but not getting does not make me feel rejected by Mike.
How do I accept rejection with grace? I don't post ever expecting to get a direct answer. I understand he's a busy man, and while he might actually read every word I write here, he just doesn't have the time or inclination to reply to my questions (I prefer to believe it's the former rather than the latter just for the sake of my own ego).
You will feel less rejected if you just lower your expectations. Normally that's a bad thing, true...but in this place it's just a necessary survival technique. There's just not enough Mike to go around!
(I suppose it's harder if you have actually gotten a response from Mike in the past...I know you have, Cynthia, so maybe that makes it harder to understand when he doesn't follow up to your questions.)
I simply do look that deeply into it to care that much. You're not being rejected sweetie. Its not like staring a cute boy in the eye, saying hello, and getting snubbed.
I love getting a reply. And I appreciated it a lot. But I don't NEED it. When I ask a question, its about something that I really am curious about, but not getting an answer has no impact on my life. I would just like to know.
I'm not as into the board thing as much I guess. I leave the board for weeks at a time when the threads move in a direction I don't like. Been tempted to leave these last few days since its been so negative. Sure I'll check in, I read then think, nope, still don't like it. Maybe a few more weeks go by. I don't seek out Mikes posts. I don't miss it while I'm gone and I am certain, Mike does not miss me in my absence. Ships passing in the night right? Do I expect him to notice me missing? As flattering as it would be to be missed, Not one little bit.
It sounds to me like you care just a little too much. Not that you shouldn't care. Just not to the extent that it personally effects you. As a matter of fact, that worries me.
What kind of life would mike have if he traveled 300 days a year and spent all of his free time here? We should be pretty grateful that he gives us anything at all to look forward to, and is entertaining while hes at it!
~Maks Beggars can't be choosers Well, they can try, but you know
I usually handle rejection with tequila, sometimes rum. I don't consider not getting a response from anyon to a post a rejection. Sometimes I post like I talk. Ramble for the heck of it. It doesn't really rate a response. SALLY
Have to agree with Cherry. If you look at it as rejection you may be coming with the wrong attitude. Especially when directly asked questions are not always answered. Sometimes it is an aside to a statement. Other times it is to a comment that strikes on what was said but doesn't name the person who said it. If you take things too personally here you'll be tied up in knots, running around in circles and meet yourself coming from the other direction.
Like most here Mike is a moody whim poster. Going with the feeling. What happens to strike the fancy at any given time. He's not on a assembly line when it comes to posting......at least I don't think so. To use a variation of a rather cliched term; it's not you so much as it is him.
I for one always expect an answer from Mike, no matter how asinine the question or ridiculous the comment I've made. I sit in front of my monitor ,biting my nails and constantly rocking back and forth ,back and forth softly calling ...Mikey, Mikey, Mikey...where are you dearest?? Please answer me...please...Oh Why!?, Oh Why don't you answer me?!
Now if you consider the principal of supply and demand ...there are X number of posters here all vying for Mike's attention times the number of posts divided by the coefficient of a circle and then carry the 2..well as you can see that the fact that Mike actually finds the time to answer anyone is impressive. So don't despair by the law of averages ,your turn to get an answer should come around exactly 3 years from next Thursday.
I hope I made you smile with my nonsense. Honestly Cynthia, someday when you least expect it Mike will give you one of the most wonderful comments you could ever hope for ...trust me they are worth waiting for!
And I hope you know I was kidding about the rest of the stuff I wrote here.
I think whenever Mike sees your screen name, his eyes light up. Somthing about feet.
Remember what he said that he answers all posts, he just doesn't have time to type out those answers.
What if HP comes up with a program for filthy job guests that can type what they dictate. They have these things for doctors. Mike can just sit there and reach out to us with exactly what he's thinking.
I handle rejection often in one way or another-) I guess I am just used to it. I'ts great when Mike responds to a thread, but I like it even more when there are a lot of people here that are willing to give me their input. I have been helped by all of the people on this message board and am graterful that it is here. I can read when Mike pops in, we MBrs have the same interests in Dirty Jobs and some great conversation. That makes this a very nice place for me to hang out. .02
I thought he did post to you saying he liked saying your screenname? It is adorable. The first time I ever posted I asked a question and got 0 responses, it lies somewhere in the MB question limbo. I thought maybe this is how this place works. Never thought of another good question yet so I just post to others threads. One day he responded to something I posted, it was cool, maybe lightning will strike again. Hagen Daas works well for all sorrows. Janine
I kinda look at this place like a gigantic snowball fight. (Uh-oh, my Alaska is showing) And Mike is a moving target going a million miles a minute. You lob some good throws, and if you miss, *shrug* oh well. If ya get a hit, great! But he may be lobbing a snowball at someone else and unable to retaliate against your particular snowy onslaught. If you do hit him and he fires back, well, consider yourself a lucky MBer because it's not the way of things for most of us. In order for Mike to have an actual life out side of work, it CAN'T be that way for most of us. c'est la vie, ma amie, c'est la vie!
Mike has never responded to anything I've written. I used to wonder why. Is it because I offended him on some occasion? Is it because my questions are not interesting enough to warrant a reply? Is it because I liked 'Animal Farm'? Is it because I haven't bathed today, my grandpa's name was Rector Orville, or I speak with a Texas accent? Is it because I am an idiot?
Then I slapped myself silly, not only because thinking things like this was a waste of time but because some of them might actually be true.
I post here regardless. I like Mike, and I like this MB.
Cynthia....I would not take it personally. If I remember correctly you have gotten a response to a post...I have been here for several months and have not had a response to any of my posts by said host. I refuse to take that personally as I have made some friendships here and met some really great people. I have usually taken "rejection" personally but have tried to not do that. I can not be responsible for how everyone percieves me, I just need to do the best I can. If anyone else comes along for the ride then that is great. We still love you, so don't feel rejected. Shelly
[quote]Posted Jul 14, 7:13 PM Hide Post Hi Cynthia,
I for one always expect an answer from Mike, no matter how asinine the question or ridiculous the comment I've made. I sit in front of my monitor ,biting my nails and constantly rocking back and forth ,back and forth softly calling ...Mikey, Mikey, Mikey...where are you dearest?? Please answer me...please...Oh Why!?, Oh Why don't you answer me?!
Now if you consider the principal of supply and demand ...there are X number of posters here all vying for Mike's attention times the number of posts divided by the coefficient of a circle and then carry the 2..well as you can see that the fact that Mike actually finds the time to answer anyone is impressive. So don't despair by the law of averages ,your turn to get an answer should come around exactly 3 years from next Thursday.
I hope I made you smile with my nonsense. Honestly Cynthia, someday when you least expect it Mike will give you one of the most wonderful comments you could ever hope for ...trust me they are worth waiting for!
And I hope you know I was kidding about the rest of the stuff I wrote here.
Hey Cynthia, I went a year on this board without having Mike speak a word to me. Yes indeed, I was strong and Rowe wasn't going to break me, it was a contest with myself to see how long I could last without resorting to trickery or obvious attention getting tactics. You gotta be strong, you've gotta be tough, you've got to remember he appreciates us all even though he doesn't always have time to say so.
I view this as a big room where like minded folks can come and chit chat all week while Mike is out making a living. When his schedule allows, he comes into the room and walks around seeing what conversations are going on. If he stops to chat with your group...great! If not, then he missed a great opportunity for scintillating discussion. (Some more than others but I enjoy them all.)
[quote]What if HP comes up with a program for filthy job guests that can type what they dictate. They have these things for doctors. Mike can just sit there and reach out to us with exactly what he's thinking.[/quote]
Susie
