I am a working mother. I was a stay at home mom until I couldnt take it anymore. I love my children and i wouldnt trade them in for anything different. But it doesnt stop me from wondering.. what if...
My husband and I had gotten engaged in febuary and found out we were pregnant with my daughter in April. Totally unexpected. At the time I had been working in sales at a car dealership for 4 years. I met my husband at work. I trained him in car sales. But for some reason the minute we found out we were having a baby we knew there was no way we could both go on working 60-80hr weeks together. One of us would have to sacrifice our career and stay home. Now my husband had been at the dealership just over 1 year. We made the same amount of money. The only differnece was that I was with child. so it was automatically determined without further discussion that i would quit. WHY? I had been gunning for the asst manager position or even better, the finance Manager position.
well fast forward to 4 years later.
I have two wonderful kids now my daughter who is just over 3 and my son who is now 10months old.
My husband is now general sales manger of a dealership. I work in banking. (a straight 40 hour a week job.) with little pay but great benefits. Not much excitement. If i could go back and switch roles, keep my kids and have my husband get pregnant.. and stay home for 2 years and sacrifice his career while i keep on trucking up the ladder to GSM.. well damn straight i would have. I would love to run my own dealership now. And its not because im selfish. Not because i dont love my family. But because I worked so hard for, so long and in a heartbeat i gave it up.
But instead of crying about it, and since not everyone gets a shot to be on tv and have their dream career handed to them: Im working in a field that will turn my resume into a big wad of cash for the future. I worked a great mom schedule for dealership in the call center as a top producer, i spent some time selling real estate and fit it into my schedule and now im working in a financial field... where i plan to work and build my career until im ready to move back into the car world as a finance manager. With 5+ years in dealership experience and 3+ years in finance, totaling 10+ years in overall sales positions (and as a top producer) i will get the job i dream of someday. Because that is what i need to make me feel like myself!
And because im true to who i am and i havent let being a mom take over my whole existence or become who i am, its just what i do. Ill always be who i always was and always will be!
Except with a lot more money!
(and i dont think the kids will mind when they are getting a car or a school trip, or a college education they wont have debt for, or a big beautiful wedding... someday! ) but best of all they will have a mom who is doing what she loves and is happy because of it. You could see you mom all day everyday but who would want to if they were a miserable old bat all the time because they never got to do what they wanted in life! right?
thanks for listening!

diymom,

WOOOOOOWWW!!!!!!

I'm speechless! LOVED your story! And someday I will be just like you when I gather up enough nerve and guts to make my dreams come true as wanting to be a Fashion Designer. I know how to draw the hell out of beautiful gown, but dont know how to sew to save my life, lol. And to add insult to injury, I want to be on Project Runway but that will not happen anytime soon because it seems like they pick people that basically have careers in Fashion already, just basically advertising and promoting them to jump out there in hopes of some Top Fashion Designer like Michael Kors to take them under his wing.

Unfortunately, he'll look at me like I lost my mind real quick because I dont have any schooling in Fashion but want to be a fashion designer terribly.

Pryceless

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Originally posted by diymom:
I but best of all they will have a mom who is doing what she loves and is happy because of it. You could see you mom all day everyday but who would want to if they were a miserable old bat all the time because they never got to do what they wanted in life! right?
thanks for listening!

YOu make a very good point and somedays I am that miserable old bat! If I had a clue what career it was that I wanted, I'd be more worried about it. But I'm a miserable old bat somedays not because I'm a stay at home mom, I'm that way because having three kids and trying to keep them, their schedules, my husband's career demands and my mind from flying all apart is hard work!

Hi i am Amy and i am a stay home mother, i remember when i was was younger i once had a dream, that dream of mine was to joining the Army, all i ever herd as i was growing up was that is not the way to go. I first had this dream when i was in grade 4, all my life i dream of becoming something that no one really was to become , i love the idea of it everything about it. It excited me, serving my country was the the choice i wanted to make, don't tell me it was a stupid dream i herd it all trust me... i finally reached grade 12 and i graduated. I was so excited with every opportunity open to me, shorty after i had become pregnant, 9 months later me and Duncan had the most beautiful baby girl we named her Taylor, she made our lives worth living, she gave us love, a different kind of love, one that will never fade. Taylor is now 9 months and growing so fast!
I always wanted to know what would have happened if i would have joined the army, i will never know now but thats ok because i have her and she has me and we are truly happy togeather xoxo.... thank you for reading
signed Amy
p.s. if the opportunity was ever open to me i would take it