I will never turn this show on again. We're supposed to be excited about a mom being taken away from her 3 young girls so she can be a fashion designer? How selfish. Let's show the other side of the story...how the kids' world is going to be turned upside down by having to go to daycare. I am appalled. There is something seriously wrong with our society. Obviously, if mom has to work that's one thing. But the mom did not have to work and she has two babies. Sick show.
I couldn't agree with you more.This show makes me sick! I will never watch it again. I have two children that are similair in age to this woman's children and I can't imagine leaving them for a job. She has no idea how different their life is going to be. Her husband is a doctor and I'm sorry, but they can't be hurting for money, it's not like they can't provide for their children on his income. She has years ahead of her to be a designer, she has put it off for this long, couldn't she wait until her younger children were in school too. TLC has always been one of my favorite stations, but after tonight--they have lost a lot of my respect. I am absolutely livid! Which is saying a lot, because it is a rare day when I get upset over something.
I thought the show was really interesting actually. They weren't forcing her to do anything, it was just an option she had. And I think everyone should follow their dreams, if they can and are able to. Her husband was going to help her out and they both said they were going to have to depend on some people to help them out. There's nothing wrong with that, I don't think. I don't think she should abandon her children but it didn't appear that she was doing that. She was just pursuing a dream, something that she was really good at and she was being fully supported by her family.
I also thought it was interesting and I did not get the feeling at all that the kids were being abandoned. I have been both a working mom and a stay at home mom and it is sad to read how cruel women can be to each other. We should support each other whatever decision we make. This should not be "the great debate" but a celebration of all mothers who work hard both in the home and outside.
I reread my last post, and I wouldn't want anyone to feel that I was being cruel to another mother--that is not my intention. Of course, it was her decision, and actually none of my business. I was just so appalled of the idea behind the show and after watching it could not contain how upsetting the premise is. In a way I am happy that the woman could presue her dreams. This is such a touchy subject and strong feelings are hard to hide when talking about.
I dont think that it is right for us to judge a woman for going after her dream. she is not being taken away from her kids. she obviously loves her kids she chose this. I really don't think that she is being selfish she has been a stay at home mom for how many years. I think it is great that she has this opportunity. also, if she is a fashion designer she can probably afford to pay a highly qualified nanny to take care of her children, not just some daycare. I do think that there is something wrong with our society but I don't think that it has anything to do with going after dreams. So what if they arn't hurting for money I dont belive that that mother would really just "abandon" her kids.
I would just like to see some kind of update after the show, like how the family is doing months ahead and what type of hours the mom is working. It looked all lovely at the end when her dress was being shown on television, but I wonder how her family was.
Wow!!! Some of you ladies are kinda harsh!! I am a stay at home mom and have been for 11 years now!! I have 3 kids and I loved the show!!! Where can I sign up!!! I am so happy that I made the choice to be home with my kids even though we really could not afford it at times but I don't think that it is good for a women/mom to ever "give up" on her dreams or think that all she can ever be is a mom!!! Yes being a mom is one of the most important jobs we can ever do but I do belive that God made us to do SO much more!!! Are not we/women the best multi-taskers??? So why as are kids get older can't we do both??? I think it is all about a healthy balance. My kids are 11, 7 and 5 and I am really thinking about getting back on the road to following my dreams, I belive God has put the desire in my heart to do more than staying at home and I am so excited to see where that road takes me!!! So THANK YOU to TLC for giving moms that are ready, an exciting opportunity to pursue there dreams and let me know where I can sign up!!!!
Boo to TLC! I will never watch this show again. Do we really need a show that is trying to get moms away from their children? Instead, how about a show that helps those moms that would love to be able to stay home with their children, but haven't been able to find a way?
First off, it starts with the woman telling a lie to her husband, by not telling him the real reason she is gone. I would never lie to my husband. That alone made my husband not want to watch. Are there no shows that can treat a man with respect? Is that what we are teaching our children? Then the eldest daughter stated that "men can't do anything right". More of the same attitude. Sad.
Secondly, why is it always the full-time mom that is "giving up" something. You know what the working mom is giving up on? Time with her children. You can always have a career later, but you will never get that time back with your children. I know some women have no choice, but this mother did.
Third, they said she had her family supporting her. Does that include the little ones, that are too young to have a say? I would like the show to put a little more time into the follow-up. Show the children having to get used to daycare. I wonder what they would say to mom if they were old enough to tell her what they were feeling? Before I had children I was a daycare teacher. I was the one trying to comfort the child. I was the one they started calling "mom" because they were with me more waking hours of the day than they were with their mothers.
Lastly, why does the mom have to go to work full-time to follow her dreams? Get a little creative. I follow my dreams without my children going to daycare. Yes, there are some things that I don't do right now because my youngest in not quite 2 years old, but I will have time for those things later. He deserves to have time with mommy just like his older brothers got before they started school.
I am really disappointed and offended by this show. The comment directly above mine pretty much sums up my feelings perfectly.
I won't ever watch this show again!
Broadcasting women abandoning their families for a "career" sends the wrong message to everyone. At what point did people start valuing clothes more than their children?
Those poor little kids (not to mention her husband who will probably now be neglected) have no idea what's about to happen to them. This is a wonderful way create divorce, discomfort and sadness. Also,they very clearly pointed out that their oldest child has special emotional needs. How can those needs be met when both parents are working 50 hours a week at VERY demanding jobs?
Finally, I have no problem offending working mothers. Unless you're about to starve there is no reason for you to be at work. If you didn't want to raise your children, you should not have had them. It's child abandonment. Your children are being raised by other people 50+ hours a week! How can you think that it's more important to keep your job? I have been a single, work from home, mother for 4 years. If there's a will, there's a way. My child is the most important thing in the world. I would NEVER let someone else raise him.
I was uneasy about this show just from seeing the commercials for it, and it was even worse than I thought.
There is NEVER a good reason for a person to lie, especially to her husband and children! I was really disappointed to hear her justifying her lies to her oldest daughter. Way to set a good example there!!
I was also rolling my eyes over the typical emasculation of the husband shown in this episode. Shame on this mommy when I hear her daughter saying "he's a man, and we all know men can't do anything right." And also seeing the husband's tears when he realized this job was what she needed for "completeness." It wasn't enough to have a caring husband and beautiful daughters and the opportunity to stay home and take care of them. Why does she have to have a full-time job to express her creativity? It seemed to me that the applause of total strangers is what she "needed." She can make dresses at home. How fun would it be to create beautiful things for her daughters to wear?
Then there was the idea that she had to make a life-altering decision that day. That is INSANE!! Who would do that in real life? I know it was set up that way to add to the drama, but the creators of the show need to realize that they are dealing with real people who will be living with the consequences of that choice long after the cameras stop rolling. I was literally moved to tears by the thought of the 2 younger girls bewilderment when they realize Mommy is no longer going to be around on a daily basis.
If this show must continue, here are my suggestions:
1. The wife needs to make a mutual decision with her husband to appear on the show\ after he has all the facts about what will really be happening to her.
2. The wife should be given ample time to make such a huge decision.
3. There should be a requirement that all the family's children be school age so there aren't little ones put in daycare unnecessarily.
This is one I will never be watching again-it was sickening!!
thank you, srcorwin!!! ok, so what is this lying to your husband about? havent you ever thrown him a suprise party or suprised him with anything? dosent that include some type of decietfulness? i think this is the same thing.
Originally posted by maxpmcgee: We should support each other whatever decision we make. This should not be "the great debate" but a celebration of all mothers who work hard both in the home and outside.
I am responding specifically to you, maxpmcgee. I completely disagree with you when you say we women should support each other with whatever decision we make. I am not going to support someone who puts her needs, desires, wants in front of what is in the best interest of her kids. Let's ask the kids what they want. Kids...do you want to wake up at 6 am, go to daycare all day long, be picked up at 6 pm, have dinner and go to bed only to start this crazy schedule the next day??? Like I said, this is a couple who don't need a double income. Since when are we as a society not supposed to judge??? If someone is doing something wrong, I will judge. And all of you who espouse "do not judge," then don't you DARE judge me. We make judgments all the time and the mom in this show make a poor judgment by abandoning her kids to pursue her career. She can wait 4 yrs when baby is in school and then she can work her little heart out. Something really has gone wrong with our society. How many school shootings were there in the 50's?? None. We women need to seriously re-evaluate.
I'm not that shocked that there is so much negative comments on here. If you watch the show again watch how negative everyone is to her that she is working with. They are amazed that someone who chose to stay home at one time when needed actually has a brain!! Yet as I read the comments no one picked up on that. Do you really think you can put a career like this on hold til you want to go back. Don't get me wrong I'm a SAHM and that is my dream. Unfortunately it's coming to an end because of the economy. So I'm a little jealous that I don't have an option. That doesn't change the fact I feel whole as a SAHM but if you don't you're not doing the children any good . It's like staying in a unloved marriage for the kids. This lady was obvouisly torn and will make quality time with the children. I watch my nephew 50 hrs a week so my sister can work and he is very much loved. I hope she'll be able to find someone who loves her kids just as much as I love him. And that if she reads all these horrible blogs she feels great about herself and doesn't let you all change her mind.
She put the career on hold for 11 years, what's 4 more when the baby is in school? Nowhere did she say she didn't feel "whole" as a SAHM. I think you do the children a world of good by being home even if you don't feel "whole." Come on. This was the clincher sentence in your whole argument, "I hope she'll be able to find someone who loves her kids just as much as I love him." NOBODY loves anybody's kids like they love their own. Most likely these kids will go to daycare where there won't be mom-like love. I hope she does change her mind after reading all these blogs, would that really be so bad?
Did you see how many instructions she wrote out for her husband to follow when she was "at the spa?" I find it odd that she would be so anal about dad taking care of his own kids but be so willing to let someone else take care of them. Admit it, this show has a very warped concept.
