To taraj: I am sorry that you only feel you can support women who are identical to you. I was a working mom for three years and my children were much-loved by their in-home sitter. She has become part of our family and was a great influence on my children. For two months now I have been working from home which I thought would be the best of both worlds. However, my two children have very different needs. My son is very social and begs to go to preschool and TBall everyday. My daughter, on the other hand, could stay home and play with me all day. Families are all different and I believe that mothers make decisions based on their love and best interests of their children. I know that I had the same loving, attentive relationship with my children when I worked in an office. As a matter of fact, I would not have been given the opportunity that I have now had I not worked in the past. I feel my children have benefitted from the decisions that my husband and I have made together. I was proud to be a working mom just as I am proud to stay home with them. I am very happy that you are able to stay home with your children, but I would also be just as happy for you should you have the need or desire to work.

I agree the show is disgusting. I am all for supporting women in whatever they choose as long as it is in the best interest of the family, but come on could any more feminist crap be shoved down our throats? The idea that you need a career to be complete? How about feeling complete by parenting your kids the right way? No wonder society is f'd up. we have our priorities out of wack and kids are out of control becuase they are being raised by people other than their parents. What kind of values does this teach? Career is more important than family? You know what people 40-50 years ago lived just fine on one income, I am sure the family last night could. People just need to worry about parenting rather than big suv's wide screen tv's, 4 car garages and other rmaterial crap. Shame on TLC for being such anti family. They obviously lost sight of their demographic being the Stay at Home moms who are nurtuting their children all day and tuning into their otherwise quality programming. And why not check in with the family months later when she has to catch a red eye flight to New York and the kids are screeming "mommy, mommy" meanwhile the sitter has a family emergency. I'd like to see that episode

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thank you, srcorwin!!! ok, so what is this lying to your husband about? havent you ever thrown him a suprise party or suprised him with anything? dosent that include some type of decietfulness? i think this is the same thing.

It is not the same at all. Yes, I have thrown my husband a surprise party, but that was to honor him. This is a lie that has nothing to do with honoring him. It is a possible life changing event. I think it is unfair to the husband to be lied to. The wife's choice doesn't just effect her. They should make these choices together.

Also, I never accept an offer that is good today only. If they wanted her to work there so badly then the offer should be good today, the next day, maybe even the next week. I understand if you have a position to fill that you want to do that as quickly as possible, but that was just ridiculous.

[QUOTE]Originally posted by maxpmcgee:
To taraj: I am sorry that you only feel you can support women who are identical to you.

Not true. I support women who put their kids' needs above their own. I, like the mother in the show, do not need to work because my husband has a successful career. I, like the mother in the show, had a successful professional career before having children. I, like you, support moms who need to work. I, unlike you, do not support women who just have the desire to work when they have minor children in the home. You may view me as narrow-minded and judgmental. I consider myself an advocate for the children who don't have a voice in this controversy.

I just had to share this. I was looking around TLC's website and found this on the page where you can apply to be on one of their shows. According to them this show is celebrating stay-at-home moms. Celebrating? Yeah, right. Read below.

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Celebrating Stay-at-Home Moms!
Are you or is someone you know a stay-at-home mom? Is your life filled with driving the kids from soccer practice, piano lessons, dance classes and back home with barely enough time to get food on the table? Do you feel like everyday is for someone else with no time left for you? If your answer is yes, TLC is looking for you to be a part of a wonderful new show celebrating "soccer moms".

If you've put your needs on the backburner to run a world of diapers, dishes and laundry, we want you! E-mail us your information at: soccermomcasting9@gmail.com

I am a SAHM. I feel lucky that my husband and I make it work so that we don't have to have others raising our children. I understand that in some situations both parents have to work, or a single parent has to work, etc. but as far as I know any working mother is usually sad that her kids are in daycare.

This show was extremely uncomfortable to watch. She has to lie to her husband, the co-workers at the design store were RUDE and stcuk-up to the poor woman thrown into the situation, and then she was given the chance of a lifetime by people who should know better than to take a mother from her children. Can you imagine the working hours of a designer with such strict deadlines? And the dad is a doctor so he's probably not home much. This show was just painful to see and I wouldn't watch it again unless TLC made some drastic changes to its concept. How dare they put a show on a family channel further perpetuatiing the ridiculous myth that SAHM are missing out on life and making sacrifices?

I think we will find future shows to show women who will realize that staying home with their children is their dream. I wouldn't give up on the show just yet. I agree with a previous post that stated it would be nice to see an update on the family in a few months. I know that I have taken jobs, both full and part-time, thinking that is what was needed for my family only to find out that what I need is them and they need me. Nothing else really matters or can't be worked out. Another option might be that the Dad might end up staying home down the road. Anyway, let's give the show a chance to display both sides of the story.

Horrible show. Don't have children if you are not prepared to raise them, plain and simple. Someone mentioned how many school shooting were there is the 1950's? Go ask your grandmothers how much crime was around when she was a young women, how many children walked around with anger and "issues." Nothing like today because of the feminist movement, women began working and thinking they could have it all, but when you work and have children, you are sacrificing them for your work. I think about these children that go to daycare all year, the same place, same toys, same kids, same stuff everyday. I think about my daughter who I take to the park, Sea World, to the beach, shopping, out for lunch-just us, doing crafts, or reading books, going to the library during our days. Who do you think will have better childhood memories. Take care of your children or don't have them.

wow. A lot of people didn't like this show. I didn't watch it, but from the commercials I knew I wouldn't like it. What happened to TLC? Ot's got a lot of crappy shows now. Miami Ink, LA Ink, that crappy fashion talk show with that chick from what not to wear... I thought TLC was "The Learning Channel"... I think they need to get back to TLC.

I found this show incredibly disgusting & feel terrible for the poor kids whose mother has found being a fashion designer to be more important than being their mother. She is abandoning them for her own selfish desires. This show and its creators should be ashamed of depriving yet another family of its foundation. As a full-time working mother who can only HOPE for my opportunity to stay home and be a mother to my beautiful children full time rather than paying someone else to raise them, I am appalled.

I, too, am disgusted. Not by the show, which I could take or leave, but by the self-righteous, holier-than-thou attitudes expressed by the stay-at-home mothers. Just because the choice to work is not right for you, does not mean it is wrong for other families. Reality check: being a stay-at-home mom does not make you an inherently better parent than a mom who chooses to work. Because you stay at home, you are not endowed automatically with the skills that make you a good parent. There is no shortage of crappy parents in this world, and many of them are stay-at-home mothers. Plenty of women are able to strike the right balance between motherhood and career and raise happy, well-adjusted children. No doubt, some of them don't find the right balance. But, there are plenty of neglected and abused children out there whose mothers do not work.

A little piece of advice: you all might want to stop patting yourselves on the back so hard, or you might injure yourselves and be out of commission. Heaven forbid someone else has to care for your children temporarily.

What world do you live in Its2008???? There is no such thing as being a good mom by working full time. Can you be a mom to your kids while you are at work? This show is great because its ONE MORE WAY THAT THE WORLD HAS COME TO TEAR APART THE FAMILY. How terrible is it that this show's main purpose is to tear apart families. I don't care what any woman says, you can't be a mother to your kids while you are at work. Do people not watch the news? Heaven forbid some STRANGER watches your kid and abuses them while you are working full time so you can have your selfish dreams. The most important job in this world is to raise a family and be a mother. And you can't do that while you are at work. IF YOU WANT TO WORK FULL TIME, GOOD, GO FOR IT, BUT DON'T HAVE CHILDREN!!!! THE LAST THING WE NEED IN THIS WORLD IS MORE SCREWED UP KIDS WHO END UP IN JAIL BECAUSE....THERE MOTHER WORKED FULL TIME CAUSE IT WAS THERE DREAM...Boo Hoo..

Holy cow! You ladies are just having a roast on this show. It is very suprising too. I am a son of my mom and I wanted to try and get my mom on this show because she deserves the shot at her dream. Do you not understand that kids do have brains and are not all little brats that need their mom for everything. I love my mom, and she loves being with my brothers and me. She wouldn't give up her life for anything, but a chance to try it out is a once in a lifetime opportunity, give these people a break!

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Now I'd LOVE to be on this show. I am the mother of three children and I have been a SAHM for the past five years.

My kids are now 3 1/2, 5 1/2 and 7 1/2, and I have to say that I personally would jump at the chance to re-start or jump-start my journalism career.

I don't think this show knocks working moms or SAHMs. I think it gives those of us who would like to get back in the game the opportunity to prove to ourselves that we still have what it takes.

I myself feel so brain-dead after 5 years at home that I do feel rather inadequate about jumping back into my career. It's a scary proposition. It would be nice to have the chance to brush off the cobwebs and freshen my skills--to regain my confidence.

I don't think the show belittles working moms or paints all SAHMs with the same broad brush. We are all different and we all make choices and sacrifices every day. We do our best to achieve balance--but I think that there are always things that we have to let go of because it's difficult to do everything.

I do have dreams I was never able to achieve, and I think it is amazing that TLC is helping these women regain those dreams that they may have given up on reaching.

I do plan to go back to work in the next few years, when my kids are all in school full time. But I am lucky. My mom recently retired and she would be able to care for my kids after school so I know they will be well cared for.

I will never regret the decision to stay home with my beautiful children. But I'd love to think I could step back into a fulfilling career when the time comes.

Basically I think that this show is crap! I have 2 children, work a more than full time career, my husband works an on call schedule, we raise Highland cattle, bale our own hay, grow our own corn. I volunteer at school and work all fundraisers. I have a parent that has had a stroke which requires my attendance at all medical apts. and I coach 2 soccer teams as well as am President of the Soccer board! No I do not have a maid and I iron all of my children's uniforms as well as the bed sheets! These mothers are the same one's that when we need something done for soccer or school state " I can't I do not have time" Yet how much television do they watch or how many books do they read? and in all actuallity, how many of them are on anti depressents and there homes are a wreck? If you want an excuse you can find it! I drive my children 40 minutes one way to school each day then work a very successful job. I do homework with my children, I make their halloween costumes from scratch. I do not use take out I cook our meals from scratch we do not have resturants where we live! So get over yourself's and be a REAL woman and just do it! Boo HOO your stuck home with your beautiful children that are the same ones my kids play with and are total brats and can not speak or anunciate the english language properly because they spent so much time talking and teaching them! so do all women a favor and get over your so called " sacrafice" All you are doing is teaching your children that you do not have to anything to contribute to the family but play with your kids...nice!