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Originally posted by nunimonster:
What world do you live in Its2008???? There is no such thing as being a good mom by working full time.

I live in the real world -- the one in which millions of women are managing to balance work and motherhood to raise healthy, happy children. To state that there are no good mothers who work full time is patently offensive. If that's the message being conveyed to your children, you don't score any "good parent" points in my book.

Spare me the hyperbole about children who end up in jail because their mothers worked, unless you can provide the data to back up such a ridiculous statement.

I started this post to comment on the show, not to start a "mommy war." The premise of the show is just bad....trying to lure mommy back into the work force. Apparently this show angered enough women that Dr. Laura got over 100 e-mails. Her comment was "I don't control the networks so complain to those who do" which I did and I ask all of you to do the same who don't like the show. It was refreshing to hear her commentary and you can do so as well by listening to her March 4th show on streamlink. It is the first item she comments on. To abraisme, Dr. Laura read your commentary on air, just thought you might want to know.

I agree this show should be stopped. If you don't have children go be president and be great at it please. For all you moms or moms to be your fooling yourself in thinking doing it all benefits your children go work partime your kids are waiting for you...

Wow! I am so excited about this. This topic fascinates me, so that I have been working on a book about it all! Firstly, It is nice to see this show hosted by Tracey Gold, someone who we grew up with! I loved the show! It is such a strong and controversial topic right now. I am a stay at home mom of 2 great kids, 9 yrs. and 5 yrs. and have a loving husband. I worked since I was 16 and never stopped until I was pregnant with my second child (at 38 yrs old.). I worked part time with my first child and was lucky to have the grandmas' babysit. I feel very blessed to be able to be home with my kids. However, I worked longer than I've been a mom. Being a mom is a tremendous joy and responsibilty. My point being, that what I did for my career, became part of me. I think Adriane is a great mom and she was fine being at home with her kids. She was offered this great, fun opportunity to express the person she has put away. After being home for a while, you wonder if your job skills are still there. She had the chance to find that out. It is a choice. I loved when her husband said,"He could never give her completeness, and this was what was missing for her". I cried! He truly loves his wife and knew her before she was a mom. You can be the best mom, but if something is missing and you are not happy, your kids know you are not happy and they sense it, believe me. All moms need to evaluate their individual situations, but I think it is an amazing opportunity to do what Adriane did. I would love to speak to her and see how she is doing! I speak to so many moms who just "don't know what's missing" and feel torn. Kids are empowered by their moms and we need to be the best we can be for them. So there is the choice. I hope the show continues and I'd love to see the follow-up on the mom's decisions.

Is it not enough that divorce is at an all time high, ripping families apart, but now there is a show that promotes removing mothers from the home. Mothers that were otherwise making it work finacially.
I could not even stomach the comercials for the up coming episode. At one piont the camera zoomed in on the faces of these two little boys while their mother was in tears saying "boys mommy has a tough desicion to make" Did anybody else see that?
One thing that I will say on the positive side--today while spending time with my children I hugged them extra, and told them I loved them more and just savored every moment with them. Being a SAHM can become monoteneous, I love it, but I know we have all had those days where we think, if I have to change one more poopy diaper...
But, today was different, this show has made me appreciate more fully the privillage of being home with my children. I do not say this to be boastful, only to remind those mothers out there that not all moms have that choice.

Heres the way I see it: She gave this name to the Lord who spoke to her, "You are the G-D who sees me". Gen 16:13
Quite simply He is the generator of all good gifts and uses all of them in many different ways. You see G-Ds plan is to bless us and not harm us, if we seek Him first. What great FREEDOM we have been given that we do not need to bolt the doors of our homes and hide in fear for our children but instead go out amongst all people and live victorious lives in the name of Christ. After all I serve a living G-D and as far as i have experienced it is quite a roller coaster ride of different seasons, perhaps this is my time to reap. Thank you.

I really enjoy the show. My mother always thought about my sister and I, and never ask for anything. This show allow mothers to follow their dreams for a week or less and then decide if they want to return to the workplace. I feel sometimes moms need to be selfish sometimes. Motherhood is a great blessing, but moms are people too. They have dreams they want to follow. I personally feel some jealousy going around. The is so much hate for the program and no one see the beauty of it. I know every parent tells their kids to follow your heart and go for your goals. This is what the purpose of the show.

Hello all. Even though I'm not a mother, I am a woman who does eventually want children. What I dont understand is why we women are asked to make decisions and sacrifices that men aren't asked to make. From what I've seen growing up, the life of a SAHM isn't alot more than eat,sleep,cook,clean,occasionally have sex. SAHMS have to ask themselves what they will do when their children are out of the house, and when their husband eventually dies. I don't just mean financially, I mean with themselves. Family life eventually goes away, and then where will the SAHMS be? Their worlds will be gone. Besides, In my inexperianced opinion, I would have alot more to give my children if my life isn't only home. And when they go away, which they will, it won't hurt as much. Don't any of the SAHMS feel that they've put all their emotional eggs in one basket? Maybe it's not our right to judge Adrians decision to return to work. Maybe this is a personal decision that we have no right to even have an opinion. This isn't black/white...

You moms that are downing the show are not looking at it from the perspective of the participants. Apparently these moms are missing their careers and needed the chance to see if it is worth it to them to go back to work. Maybe those of you who are so upset are jealous that your weren't given the same opportunity. No one should be judging any of these women for what they are choosing to do (no one is taking them away). Only God has the right to judge any of us. This is a decision that should be made by the women and their spouses and the rest of the world should just shut up about it. And I do not think that the show should be cancelled. I don't like "jacka__", but I'm not trying to get the show cancelled. I simply watch something else during that time or spend time with my children. Maybe some of you mom's that are complaining about the show should try that.

WOW! Since when did any of you become the authority on how to raise children? It's slightly arrogant to judge someone who doesn't fit your ideals of parenthood or someone who chooses to live differently than you would. Truly unbelievable! I've worked with kids - I've stayed home with kids - both were my choice. Now, live and let live.....and unless someone died and left you in charge of how it's supposed to be, then I suggest you perform a little self reflection to find out why you've grown up into such a self-righteous person. That's probably not a good lesson to teach the kiddos!

Did it ever occur to the creators of this show that most SAHMs chose to "give up" or "hold" their careers because they wanted to be with their kids, not because someone put a gun to their heads? "Hey, you know that lifestyle you turned down to be with the kids who mean everything to you? Now's your chance to reverse your decision. No pressure, but we've created a show and a bunch of hype around the possibility that you'll say yes."

This is a smart idea because...?

As a freelancer with a part-time, at-home work schedule, I have jumped through hoops to be able to stay home with my beautiful children instead of paying someone else to do it. There is no amount of money and no TV show that would make me want to give it up. That is why I quit my full-time job. SAHMs are not victims. Moms who choose to be at home are enjoying a privilege that only comes along once in life. Kids grow up quickly, and then those days are gone. It is wrong to try to convince a mom that she is missing out on something better.

I think they should change to name of the show to "secret life of a stay-at-home-mom" or get real soccer moms on the show. I stayed at home with my two children (now 18 & 26) but ran my business from home - embroidery and designed and sold western show apparel over the internet. My son (18) played soccer from the time he was 4 and still plays in college. Every weekend we were on the road to games and tournaments (year round). My husband is an over the road truck driver, so I had to juggle everything. Did it just fine and both children are great. If this women was missing her career she could have started her own line of clothing from her house or made a deal with the company to design from home. If hubby was a physician he could have afforded a bigger house so she could have her own studio.

I would just like tosay that I really enjoyed the show. As a SAHM now and a working mother a few years ago, I see both sides of the fence. It was fun to watch a SAHM get a chance to live her dream for a week. There are a few comments I would like to make however. The first one ...about the children going to daycare. I have had my kids in daycare and worked in one and there are those of you out there who think children suffer in daycare. You cannot be more wrong. How do you think kids learn appropiate socialization skills? And second... about the lying issue. If those of you who think that they would do a better job, please apply for the job of the Almighty, because the rest of us are human and make mistakes. I'm not saying that was right or wrong but for that mom at that time , that was how she chose to deal with it. It was really nice to see a mom who could set a good example for her girls by showing them mom has a right to be happy too!

[QUOTE]Originally posted by tlh79:
From what I've seen growing up, the life of a SAHM isn't alot more than eat,sleep,cook,clean,occasionally have sex. SAHMS have to ask themselves what they will do when their children are out of the house, and when their husband eventually dies. I don't just mean financially, I mean with themselves. Family life eventually goes away, and then where will the SAHMS be? Their worlds will be gone.

Are you joking??? Is your entire life just your job? If so, that is very sad. What will you do if you become disabled and can't ever work again? I have many hobbies and I volunteer in many different capacities. Those are things I will be able to do forever. The difference between a SAHM and a working mom is that SAHM's put their kids' needs above their own, not a concept that feminists teach. One can always get a job. In contrast, one will never be able to get back the years they lost while working instead of raising their kids. By the way, how do you know your mom only occasionally had sex?

I have been a working mom for 22 years.My 2 girls are college and my 14 year old son is a straight a student with a lacrosse scholarship waiting for him.the doctors you see ,are working moms,the teachers you see are working moms,the day time shows you watch are working moms.You think your kids are gonna be special because you were home and theyre not.you can be home all day but if your watching soaps eating bon bons,guess what your kids will be stupid.I hate to pop your stuck up bubble but whats your excuse when they are in school??My kids think I am there hero,and they have fantastic habits like getting up and out the door.so go tell your kids teachers that you think they stink because they left there kids.you people use your kids as excuses to be lazy .