You are throwing stones at these women, who have taken the opportunity to be on this show or live this lifestyle every day. You are saying they are terrible mothers for not staying home with their children. But the way I see it, you are the same. Looks like you have too much time on your hands, spending it on the computer. Shouldn't you be watching your kids, fixing their lunch, or scrubbing a floor instead of spending it on the internet? Seems like you are "no better", you have just found a way to have a diversion and still make yourself feel better by saying you're staying home. Get off the internet and watch your kids since you're SO PERFECT!
I don't know about the other moms on this forum, but I spend my time on the computer late at night, when kids are tucked in bed and I have a few moments to breath. Don't judge me because of what you think you know.
Originally posted by AV8trWife: I don't know about the other moms on this forum, but I spend my time on the computer late at night, when kids are tucked in bed and I have a few moments to breath. Don't judge me because of what you think you know.
The irony of that last statement is killing me. I've read enough of the SAHM side on this forum to see a LOT of stupid judgments being passed about the choices working women have made. And I do think a lot of the venom from SAHMs comes from guilt and other repressed emotions.
Who the heck are you SAHMs to tell other women and their families how they should raise their kids? How would you like it if I told YOU how to raise your kids?
Leave the working mothers alone. They are often doing the best that they can or what they feel is right for them.
Well, I think what you say has a lot of merit. And I also think your words could be applied to working moms and still be true. We all are doing the best we can and doing what we feel is right for us. I also think a lot of the women defending their right to work are deeply unsettled about their choice/requirement on the inside. They know they're kids need them.
I have never heard any SAHMs say that they were perfect or say that they are better than working moms. Everone is entitled to their opinion and I know that every mom on here mkaes sure that their kids are taken care of before getting on the computer. That's just what all mothers do. They put their kids first and themselves last. Even working moms. Sure, their kids may have to go to day care, but I don't think it harms the kids. I was in day care and I even remember my mom forgetting to pick me up and the day care couldn't call her b/c we didn't have a phone. She finally came and got me at 10pm, but I don't hold it against her. No one is perfect and your kids won't hold that against you. But, I really feel that you need to get off the defensive and try to look at things from a different angle.
The Grass Is Always Greener..... I can't believe everyone is squabbling over individual choices. I got pregnant at 23, have had 4 children and am now 31. Do I regret having my kids? Of course not! Do I wish I had developed an interesting career? Of course! I have been a stay-at-home mom and a working mom and neither one has it easy. When you work a full-time job you have only a few hours to do dinner, spend some time with the family and get everyone ready to bed. The days fly by and the few days off a week are crammed with familial, home, and other obligations. Staying at home offers quality time with the family and the pace isn't as crazy but the days still fly and in my case, I suck at housework! I feel guilty for not earning the paycheck we need and keep my eyes open for work, but I love being home afterschool for my two oldest and am content to leave the younger two in daycare for the short time I have until I find another job (my boss fired me last month when I had to take three days off when my father-in-law was passing away) I love being able to read my Newsweek and go online and delve further into something interesting I've read, but I miss interaction with people at work and doing a job that I enjoy (I was a buyer for a clothing store). If we had the money for a nanny, a housekeeper, for me to do lunch and shopping with friends, and be able to do a little freelance work; take the kids to their extra curricular activities, help with homework and cuddle on the couch, I would be absolutely thrilled! But that is not my reality, so I would rather work! Its all about our individual personalities, what we are good at, what we enjoy doing, nobody is right, or wrong, in this argument But staying home
You said it sister! Who are we to tell someone else what is right for them? Or that they aren't being a good parent because they aren't at home? Parenting is about so much more. How about teaching your daughters independance instead of showing them that we must have a man in our lives to pay the bills? How about teaching our sons that women can be in the work force as equals and deserve to be respected? What happens when your kids grow up and move out? Because if you are doing your job as a parent that's what is going to happen. Then what? There's no more soccer. There's no more peanut butter and jelly sandwiches to make after school. What about you? What are you going to do with yourself then? I was thrust back into the workforce nearly 11 years ago by a nasty and sudden divorce from a man who found every possible way to not pay child support for our three children. I started out making $7.50 an hour and believe me, I shed my fair share of tears trying to figure out how I was going to juggle everything including feeding my kids. But thanks to good friends and family I made it! And so have they. I have wonderful, amazing, responsible adult children who love me deeply. I'm married to an incredible man that loves and supports me in all things. And he's not even threatened that I am now successful and bring home more money than he does. And to you ladies that are on the computer late at night; how sad that you don't have a wonderful man in your life to hold you in those late night hours. Be true to yourself in all things.
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