It is a slow day at work, so I decide to check my email and find out msn has a link to this interesting show discussion board. One, I had no idea there was a TV show like that. I don't have much time to watch TV. When I get out of work, pick up my daugher and my son, have dinner, do homework, take my son to football practice, talk to my husband about his day. He helps me out with the house and the kids a lot. So, in this perfect world of mine I had no idea that stay-at-home moms had such harsh feelings towards us working women. Wow!!! I hope that is not the way you are raising your children to be. Try to be loving, instead of judgmental, because believe it or not kids pick up on this things. I grew up in a family in which all the woman worked, and we had friends that stayed at home, and nobody critized each other for their decisions. I hope you really love what you do as much as I love my perfect world...
I dont care what the "offended" SAHM's think of me. I like working and making my own check and my sons like to spend the money so its a win win situation. I cant believe the drama queens have the audacity to spew so much venom. Like we committed some kind of crime. Its a show, no one said a woman has to work but for the crybabies out there screaming statistics heres one that you can prove in your own neck of the woods. When a husband decides to leave a SAHM, what does she get and what usually winds up happening to her. I will spare you the guess work. They usually wind up with nothing because a man with a job can afford an attorney that will make sure you only get child support and most of them usually wind up moving back home with their relatives or barely making it. Now lets flip it around, what happens to us working moms when our men decide they dont want us anymore? We hold the door open and shove their butts out of it!!
demejoe I agree with you completely! Look at current events! Silda Wall Spitzer (wife of Gov. Eliot Spitzer) had an incredible career that she worked her butt off to achieve. She "opted out" to stay at home with children and volunteer with various organizations. Now look at her. It felt painful to watch her stand there next to that man and partake in that spectacle. It doesn't matter whether you stay at home or work, those situations happen in both arrangements. I just couldn't imagine being so dependent on someone else... financially or emotionally.
Totally agree!!! It happened to me... and guess what? I held the door open and here I am still doing what I was doing when he decided to leave, working and supporting my family... and by the way, kept the house, the car and everything I could... because I could afford THE LAWYER to take care of me and my kids...
I didn't realize there was such harsh judgement from SAHM's either until today. But on the other hand, I don't have any hard feelings against SAHM's. I know they work hard to take care of their kids and family. I think it's great that in today's economy, there are people who still have the choice to stay home.
It's just sad that some people are so offended by women working, being that we are in the 21st century in all.
I have to agree with all of you. I just heard all about this from one of my message boards. I just don't understand why people still get upset with women working.
In my case, I had no idea that SAHM were so mad at me? And they haven't even met me or my family? As a working mom I am being told that I prefer my job over my kids. This is not true... We as working women love our kids and family just like SAHM do. However, we also like to expand our horizons beyond the house and the school. You might not like this comment, but it is my belief, that the life of my kids revolves around mine, not mine around theirs. They came into my life... I decided to have children, and raise them the best way possible, and that includes showing them that, in life, it is possible to have it all without hurting other people. I am showing my son that a woman has power beyond believe (just like a man does), and I am showing my daughter that she can have every last one of her desires if she puts her mind into it. But first of all I want them to learn that there is no other way to live but with love, lots and lots of love...
My wife and I do not have kids, but we agree on her working if we do decide to have kids. We also were shocked when SAHM's that were friends of ours were so judgemental about our decision.
We heard the same phrase: I dont see how you can just 'dump' your kid at day care.
My reply to them: Do you 'dump' you kids at school or do you home school them?
My now ex husband offered me to stay at home, that was because he wanted to control me, I politley told him "no thanks". I used to be a single mom so I know what its like to struggle. A lot of these so called SAHM's dont know about that, I worked with one, who had her kids young, never worked and when she did start to work it was only because her man left her. Why do women/men leave themselves in such a vulnerable position? I dont believe in placing all my faith in one person. Its not that you dont trust your significant other its about protecting yourself. In these current times you have to anyone who says otherwise, is deluding themselves and thats not healthy. I am proud to be a working mom, in the last hour I put on dinner, put in some laundry and will glance at my homework assignments,we dont have any easier than the SAHM's, its about multi tasking. I dont look down on any SAHM but I get offended when they bash us, like its our fault,they chose to stay at home.
The SAHMs who choose to be SAHMs because they are able to and feel that is the best way to raise their kids then I respect them. The SAHMs who choose to be SAHMs because they are able to and feel that is the best way to raise their kids and BERATE those who choose to work out of the home are losers. Truth be said I had no idea that so many felt this way until today when MSN made note of it on their site. I don't know very many SAHMS and the ones I do know have no opinion one way or the other about other mothers working outside of the home. These mothers who get angry over what other moms do are a total joke.
