Before I get a lot of "how dare you judge" replies - it's just my opinion - take it or leave it.
Mother is a verb as well as a noun - full-time "working" moms can be great mothers in the time they have with their kids. But they are still full-time employees and part-time parents. Fathers don't have the same responsibilities that we do. As go women so goes society. We have the ultimate power to shape the future of our species. It is the 21st century and more dads are taking an active role in parenting and homemaking than ever before (my husband is fantastic), but we as women have the biological and societal imperative to shape and care for our children. We have been given the most important responsibility on earth and it is crucial that we discuss child rearing and what is best for our kids.
To mother is a job in and of itself - some people actually think that a care provider is more skilled than a child's own parent. Why is it a noble calling when you're paid to care for someone else's child but demeaning to care for your own?
What is truly missing from this conversation is what's in the best interest of the kids. Do you really think that a child would say, I would prefer to be "cared for" by a "provider" over my own mom and dad? When you were a kid, did you ever really care what your parents did for a living? I didn't. Were you worried about how "fulfilled" you mom was? Not me. All I knew was that I felt loved and safe because my parents gave me their time.
I think the reason SAHMs get so fired up about the show is that all of the women featured thus far have had very young children. There are decades of work ahead of you when your child reaches school age. It's not that we have anything per se against "working" moms, I own a business that I run from home when my kids are asleep.
The key is not taking time away from the child. To a child, time=love. Would you accept a husband that only saw you a few hours a week? Would your employer accept a few hours of "quality work" a week? I don't think most SAHMs are "judging" working moms - I think we have gained a lot from the experience and want to share our point of view. There are tons of ways to be a "Full-time mom" and a part-time career woman as well.
What many also forget is what you learn by taking care of your own child - you change as a person being a SAHM. You learn patience, empathy, sacrifice, humility and most of all you learn how to do your best every day without outside kudos and pats on the back. These lessons cannot be fully learned until you caring for your own child.
