Now instead of listing to each other go back and forth and misconceptions that people make all too often, I can give a true side of a story seeing as I lived it.

Growing up my mom and dad worked full time, my sister and I both had severe and chronic health issues which were financially straining. There was not much of a choice for my mother. My dad worked full time, more than 10 hours most days. My mom has been at her job for almost 35 years and is hoping to retire soon.

I have fond memories of my family growing up, there was always love and support. We were fortunate enough to have live in baby sitters since we were young to not only care for us but help my parents with house work they didnt have time for. And as time passed these babysitters became family and we still speak to some to this day (and im 20 years old!) However my parents got a divorce and around the 2nd or 3rd grade my older sister and I started going to day care before and after school. It was tough on us all having to get up earlier so my mom had enough time to get us ready feed us and get us to day care on time so she could get to work. However we are very fortunate we live in a great community with great public schools which had an on site private day care. I attened before and after school until my 6th graduation. Sure it would have been nice to spend extra time with my mom or dad but in reality I understand they sacrifices they made so we could life a healthy and happy life. I had some of the best experiences in that day care, made great friends, had plenty of (safe) adventures and had so many moments I will never forget.

But I want to make something VERY clear, I was never neglected, mistreated, or ignored. What my parents did was in our best intrests sure my mom could have stayed home but we would not have been able to afford the amount of health care we required as young children and to this day. She worked for us, and I know in my heart that as much as she is looking forward to retiring afer 35 years she can come home with a profound sense of accomplishment when she comes home from work. Not saying that we are not her greatest accomplishment but there are other areas where you can gain a sense of accomplishment. (i always get a good feeling after cleaning the bathroom)

And to be honest im happy that my mom did work, not to say this applys to everyone but I am happy I was able to help my mom and accomplish things at a younger age then some of my friends. I had chores like cleaning my room and my bathroom, the kitchen. I didnt get an allowance for doing these chores either I did them because I was doing my part to help out my family. And im happy that i did, so many people i know still have thier moms cleaning thier rooms, doing their dishes or laundry and thier in thier 20's!! I belive to build a strong person you need to be able to take care of your self and own responsibilties (to an appropriate point, im not saying have a six year old playing with lysol trying to clean a bathroom, lets not get crazy here)

I belive that it is each womans choice to life the life she chooses to. There is no "Right choice" each situation differs for each individual, and family. I honestly dont understand why we as women are constantly attacking one anothers choice to life a specific lifestyle?!? The most important thing is our children, and I cant understand how you can say something unless you have lived it,
hopefully one day instead of attacking one another we will support and help one another, but i guess that is up to my generation, this one already seems lost.. and you should always remember: "Dont judge a man until you have walked a mile in his moccasins".