I am seeing the words 'dump your kids at daycare' bandied about alot on this forum. So I was just curious how many stay at home mom's 'dump' their kids at school or do you home school them?
I wouldn't consider school 'dumping my kid at school' he's there to learn. He has teachers there to teach him the book things he needs to learn to succeed later in life. These teachers have not only been educated in teaching the children from books but they also teach valuable social interaction and are trained in spotting various problems children may be having and helping solve them. I believe school is a balance between teacher and parent. They teach him the things I've forgotten (basic algebra) and I teach him the things they are not suppossed to - life's hard lessons. I would never consider putting my kid in a school to be 'dumping' them anywhere. The same goes with Head Start and Preschool. There are some GREAT programs geared at getting kids ready for school and life.
I thought so, but wanted to make sure. I think you lose some of the visual cues (smiling when you say something) when you're online. I don't know why they would consider a program like Head Start of Preschool 'dumping' they are there just as they are in school - to learn. I figure the more people my kid learns (the correct things) from, the more it will expand his knowledge.
ok, lets start the debate - home schooling vs the education system :-) kidding! I think it would be nice to homeschool and yes I wonder why more SAHM's don't do it. But I also know that as much as I would like to do it - actually doing it is a lot harder! There is a lot of time to put in actually teaching and a lot of rules/restrictions from what I hear. But its also more flexable for the child/your schedule.
The judgemental attidude from SAHMs has really shocked us...particularly from current/former SAHMs that we are friends with.
They are very crtical of us because we made the decision that when have kids, my wife will stay home for short time and then go back to work.
The irony in their attitude is one of the SAHMs..her oldest child no longer speaks to her The other...her mom was a SAHM..yet her daughter grew up seriously abusing drugs.
Bravo, Slimshady69! I asked the same question days ago, but as I've discovered around here, when you asked the rabid SAHMs a logical question, you don't get an answer.
Agreed. I asked the question about how SAHM's plan to support their families if something happens to their spouse and I got no response at all.
I applaud SAHM's who can make that work and have thoroughly thought out what their back up is should something happen, but I am tired of constantly being attacked and maligned (not just on this forum) for the choice that I have made to work outside the home.
One mother in particular that I run into at my daughter's gymnastics class is really quick to make snide comments about me as a working mother. The funniest part was once another mother asked her if she worked and her reply was, "God no! I couldn't possibly." Keep in mind she has two kids ages 15 and 10. Then later she was complaining to another mother about how impossible it was to have to prepare meals and make sure everyone was eating healthy. Ummm... what is taking up so much of her time? Her kids are 'dumped' at school 5 days a week.
Most SAHM's arent thinking long range, they figure they got it all figured out. Like you, I applaud any SAHM that has a plan but I have yet to encounter one who did, but some of them have the nerve to look down on working moms, heck at least we got a plan.
I'm a SAHM and I'll take a stab at this "question". Are we comparing apples to apples? Consider the ability, needs and mindset of an infant to age 5. It is the time in their life where they will develop faster than any other time. They are learning to trust, and the basis of their core values. Homeschooling while great for some may not work for all. The reason behind sending an infant to daycare and sending a school age child to school are different altogether. The most glaring reason is that it is the LAW. You either Homeschool or send your child to school by age 7. As for the reason SAHMs don't all homeschool I can't speak for all SAHM's , but it wasn't so I could drop them at school to earn money. It was because I am not a "jack of all trades" My husband and I taught and continue to teach our daughter and will do so for our small sons who are not yet school age. However, we selected a school that has trained staff who specialize in each specific subject matter and are degreed in that area. I can give all the knowledge I can contribute, but I can't equal those teachers all together. The teachers are not replacing my Mothering roll, because by the time a child enters school that is more established. Again I can't speak for others but I am thoroughly invoved in my daughters school. I volunteered 3 times a week when she was younger at her school. She is now in Junior High, and I am as invoved as ever. From what I gathered, Working Moms use daycare because they are "working". I'm pretty sure they don't put their children there because it's the law and they feel the teachers there can love them better, change their diapers better, foster their development bettter, etc.
Originally posted by chilanga: Agreed. I asked the question about how SAHM's plan to support their families if something happens to their spouse and I got no response at all.
I applaud SAHM's who can make that work and have thoroughly thought out what their back up is should something happen, but I am tired of constantly being attacked and maligned (not just on this forum) for the choice that I have made to work outside the home.
One mother in particular that I run into at my daughter's gymnastics class is really quick to make snide comments about me as a working mother. The funniest part was once another mother asked her if she worked and her reply was, "God no! I couldn't possibly." Keep in mind she has two kids ages 15 and 10. Then later she was complaining to another mother about how impossible it was to have to prepare meals and make sure everyone was eating healthy. Ummm... what is taking up so much of her time? Her kids are 'dumped' at school 5 days a week.
I don't get your point? Both parents should work because one might die? Many WOTH Moms say they need the two parent income to survive. What if something happens to one of them? Really one can play the What if game all day long both parents working assures nothing. Tragedy can strike any family. What if a child becomes terribly ill in a long term situation and a Working Mom has to stay home?
Originally posted by pr0m0m: [QUOTE]Originally posted by chilanga: Really one can play the What if game all day long both parents working assures nothing. Tragedy can strike any family. What if a child becomes terribly ill in a long term situation and a Working Mom has to stay home?
Uh, how about 1 parent, regardless of gender, loses their job and the other has to take up the slack? OR how about the fact that DAD stays at home with a sick child and MOM works? WHY do you automatically ASSUME it'd be mom to stay at home? And you know what they say when you assume????? Don't be so quick to judge OR assume when you don't have to right to in the first place.
Originally posted by pr0m0m: Homeschooling while great for some may not work for all.
And being a SAHM, while great for some, may not work for all. Funny how the exact same phrase can be applied to a choice that you so vehemently oppose.
