The only thing I'm unclear on is why anyone who didn't have to work would decide to do so? I've worked at a successful career for almost 20 years and seriously, it's overrated. Of all the cool and interesting ways you could spend your life on this earth, the best you can come up with is getting a job? Man, I just don't get it. There are just too many exciting things to learn and experience and explore to waste it by schlepping away at some job.
And for the record, I know a LOT of SAHMs and even a couple SAHDs, and every last ones laughs when I ask if they ever miss having a job. Where they find these people that WANT to work I'll never figure out.
being a SAHM has provided me with emotional fufillment... but little more. i say that my job has horrible hours and even worse pay, but the benifits are great.
when my boys are older i look forward to going back to work. i'll be given that satisfaction you can only get from being recognized by your peers. everyone likes hearing that they've done something right.
besides, when you truely love doing what you do, it's a career. it sounds to me that you have a job. if you enjoyed what you did, you wouldn't question why you are there.
I like the job i am doing. Granted no one and i say no one likes to leave their families and work long hours but my thing is if you have to work do something you like and love. I have been in jobs where i have not even wanted to wake up and go the next morning. I have been in jobs that have broke me down physically and mentally but I picked myself up went in and did the job to show myself and my kids that mommy did a job that she did not like to give them and our family the things we need. J2thej i tried the stay at home role and my husband said not to worry he would do all he had to do to make ends meet if it means him having to work 2 jobs to support us. For me I feel that as long as I am able to work and my children are in a loving environment with people I know love and trust there is no reason I should not work and help out with the family finances. Also why should I deprive my children of seeing their father? kids need two parents not one that is full of life and energy and the other being run down and exausted. I would rather my children see both parents and we make the best of the time we have together even if it is a few hours during the day and all the times on the weekend. As long a your spouse and kids know you love them. you do not need alot of time you just have to make the time you have with your family enjoyable, memorable, and as full of love as possible.
You're right, if I could get a job as a cowboy or a pirate I probably wouldn't mind working, unfortunately the fact is that 99% of us every day working stiffs would quit in a heartbeat if we could. How many lottery winners who say they're not going to quit keep working? Yep, 0. If you don't HAVE to work and can do whatever you like regardless of pay then sure, working can be fun, but when you must work to keep from living on the street, or you must work in your current job/field/profession so that you can make the mortgage payment this month, getting kudo's from your cubefarm comrades doesn't count for much when it means missing the school play, missing dinner with your family or skipping that family summer vacation because you can't get the time off.
I like working. I feel like my skills are being utilized. I also just realized my calling in life. I do alot of marketing and realized that I'm very good at it, so I'm going for my degree in Graphic Arts. I've always loved doing anything creative and wouldn't have realized it sitting at home.
If I didn't have to work, I would still want to go to school and/or volunteer.
I decide to work because I love to travel, get pampered in a spa and have lots of spending money... I tried staying at home with my first born, but after 7 months of having to ask for money to do things, and just being plain bored, I decided I could be a better mom if I was happy. And having money makes MAMA super happy!!!
I love what I do. I worked very hard to start a successful and profitable business from the ground up. I enjoy the challenge. It makes me a happier mom to work, which in turn makes for happier kids.
Originally posted by J2TheJ: Where they find these people that WANT to work I'll never figure out.
Right you dont have to work either...you can live off of welfare.
I mean think about it...steady paycheck. You and your SO can live in public housing, hang out, etc.
The reason the SAHM/Ds you asked never miss having a 'job' is because they are CHOOSING to do what they want to do. They do have a job...they raise their kid. Other people choose different jobs.
..we all have to work in one way or another. Some people enjoy having a job watching tv at home while their kids are in school. Other people enjoy having a job working in a cube while their kids are at school.
A cave I leave every morning, see the sun rise while I am driving... I get a glimpsed of reality, interact with other like-minded professional people... And then get to the cave to do what it took you the whole day to do...
