My present ex and I have been "officially" broken up for three months now but have still been sexually involved for the past two months. We were together for 4yrs and spent alot of time together until he started a new job aug 07. We only really got to see each other on weekends and I felt like i had to compete for time with him on the weekends until february when i couldnt take it anymore and thought i should give him some space (b/c he showed he needed it). Before the break up we started having more problems with him not wanting to go anywhere with me but would try to cut our time together short to go out with his friends after telling me he didnt wanna go out (this happened almost every weekend), he also would stand me up when he was supposed to come over or when we were gonna go out, this is what took me to my boiling point and separate. Also when i would try to have a casual converstion just about our future together (marriage one day--not tomorrow--but one day, moving together, etc.) he would either brush me off or say "i dont wanna talk about those things right now". I felt like he was avoiding our relationship growth. After two months of being broken up, i really missed him and wanted to get things back on track, but he said he still needed more time. More time for what? Now i feel like if i dont try to stay close enough to him that somebody else will come in the picture. He says he does wanna get back together and that he's not interested in anyone else and that wasnt the purpose of needing more time, that he just needs to get some things together. All he's been doing is partying more (every weekend) and hanging out with his friends every chance he gets. Am I wrong for feeling like he's chickened out because the relationship was starting to get more serious? I dont know if I should wait for him, I do want to but I dont wanna end up like women who wait for love and gets disappointed. Is it best to be separated for a little while? Will he get the picture that he has everything he needs in me and come back soon? Im so lost about it, heart broken, and dont know what to do. Any advice?

Do yourself a favor and read your post and try to list a few reasons why you would stay with this guy. Can't find any? Neither could any of us out here in the cyberworld. Do yourself a favor and move on as soon as you can.

I do have plenty of reasons why I would stay with him, that's the reason why I'm seeking out some advice. I guess I was just tryin to focus more on the issues in my post to get help with those and get a better understanding of what is goin on.

I believe nunnzie is addressing your issues with one lump some statement instead of all individually. What he is saying is add it all up, look at the goods and the bads and you should be able to see the answer clearly for yourself.
Of course we don't know everything but from what is written here is what I see.
Basicaly your guy has the world by the short and curlies right now. He has the benefit of a safe and steady source of sex without the commitment. He knows he's got you hooked and won't wonder while he goes out and parties it up. Do you think he is not flirting or hooking up while he's out with his friends? Maybe not but I wouldn't bet on it. This is just my opinion but I think this guy is using you for safe and steady sex while he is out free to do what he pleases. This guys got the set up! He obviously has some other things he needs to get out of his system before he is able to get serious. If he was truly serious about you and your relationship then he would be with you instead of his friends every weekend. Sorry but it appears you've taken a back seat to some more important things to him right now. But thats just my opinion. Good luck!