O.K. so i've known this guy for several years and his wife left him many months ago. He persued me relentlessly and i finally agreed to date him. Everything was great for several months. We would spend at least one day of the weekend together since we both have buys lives. Now he is backing off and ignoring me. He says he needs a break to get his life in order. He is in the middle of packing up his house and selling it to split to proceeds as well as has 4 days a week of classes, a full-time job and softball on the weekends. We used to communicate through IM and now there is nothing but short hello's. I asked if our relationship was over or if he just needed a break. He assures me that it is just a break. I'm not sure if I am just being led on because he is scared to say anything or if a break is all he needs. Any ideas out there?
I'm in a similar situation. Wondering if someone had any ideas? They do need time to heal, but we're females and worry about stuff like this. Anyone out there that can help us?
These men probably just needed you to help them through a difficult passage of their lives. Once they are free from "the old ball and chain" they are not likely to willingly step in to the next realtionship that soon again.
Leave them and keep your dignity. After all, was it only their wives fault that they got divorced?? Maybe you should try to befriend their ex's before you commit yourselves! They might be able to tell you a thing or two to help you change your mind.
I tihink kazzandra might be a little harsh, but she may be right to an extent. A divorce is a tough time physically, financially and emotionally. He became involved with you while everything in his life is unstable. It probably is not a good footing to build a relationship on. Don't slam the door on him but don't be surprised if the relationship doesn't restart.
I just recently went through a divorce because my ex left me for someone else and i sure as hell am not ready to get involved in another relationship anytime soon. I would say,let him deal with his divorce first then go from there.
