I am looking for advice/input from anyone who is willing to provide it. Thanks for your time in advance!
My situation is that I met a fine young lady a few weeks ago. We met through a mutual friend when we were both out and about having a good time on a Friday night. That evening things clicked instantly and we ended up getting physical. The following morning we hung out for quite sometime as well. We decided that we should see each other again and the next day we went on a date. The date went very well and again we decided that we should see each other for another date. Two days later we had our next date, again a huge success. We had another date after that, 3 days later, this time we were out and about with both her and my friends. The date went wonderful yet again. We had three more subsequent dates, each with 2 days between them, and these dates went as well if not better than all of the previous dates. Following that, our paths took us different directions for the weekend. Both she and I called each other over the weekend and we talked a couple of times. The conversations were in great spirit. The begining of the following week however, I began picking up a different vibe from her. I wasn't sure if it had to do with me and our relationship or the fact that she wasn't feeling the best and was working some long hours and otherwise busy as well. After trying to feel it out for a couple of days I asked her what was up. Long story short, she stated that she felt that things were moving too fast and that she was a little stressed out about that. She feels that we should take things slower and she doesn't want to be in a "total relationship" right now. She says that she needs some time sort out her feelings on the matter. I should note that she has mentioned that she had previously (not too distant past) been in a long-term relationship for the most of her adolescent life (5 years I would guess).
I told her that I would certainly honor her request to take things slower, although I wasn't too confident in my abilities to throttle my speed - I tend to act on feelings and I have amazingly strong feelings for her. I told her that in order for me to take things slower this was going to mean that I am going to seem much more distant, be much less engaging, etc. regardless of my withstanding feelings for her and that basically she would need to come back to me.
Should I give her 100% space? Call once a week? More? Less? Should I ever ask to do anything? Or just leave it all on her? I don't want her to think that I don't still feel the way that I do but I want to give her the space she's asking for...
It sounds like you could be a rebound for her. Give her some space, call no more than twice a week and if she wants a relationship she knows where to find it.
That seems like something pretty good. But AYE. Seems like maybe y'all were seeing too much of each other. It's cool to talk often. But give her the gift of missing you. I agree with robin2005. The relationship is a two way street. It's gonna be hard. Relationships are like a fine whisky. Gets better with time; yet will always leave you with a warm feeling inside.
