I was in a long distance relationship that only lasted a few months but, everything in the relationship happened so fast..it was all so intense that it felt more like a few years than months that we were together. There were problems from the start..it wasn't just the distance apart that bothered me but, he was seperated from his wife and had two small boys that she took and she wouldn't let him have any contact with them. It was extremely hard for him to go through and I tried to be there for him but, I could only do so much. I wasn't looking for any of this..it just really happened and we both fell in love so fast which was scary but, I didn't care at the time..which was a mistake. I knew that I was in over my head by being involved with him but, I was blinded by my love for him..which sounds funny now but, that's what happened. We had a lot of wonderful times but, there was too much stress going on from other things that made it bad. He was also a big flirt and had a lot of friends that were women..I tried not to let it bother me but, I think it did because we lived so far apart. I trusted him but, there was a part of me that didn't. Through it all, I still loved him and wanted to be with him like an idiot. I'm sorry this is SO long..he basically stopped calling me and never actually broke it off, he just disappeared and that's what hurt the most and I have trouble with that. There's a part of me that still loves him but sometimes when I'm reminded of him, I'm more angry than ever and feel nothing but hatred for him. This was 5 months ago. I guess I just want closure and I'll never have that with this.

Don't put yourself at blame for any of the pain you are feeling. You did nothing wrong.

The fact of the matter is that this guy is going through a lot with his failed marriage and terrible situation of his children being taken away from him. So naturally this is - and will continue to dominate his personal life of which you certainly would be affected if you would have stayed with him. And on top of that his flirting with other women right under your nose is another concern that would have eventually blown up in your face.

So in the end he was not even close to being the man of your dreams. Keep you head up and put it behind you and close that chapter in your life. And when he comes calling again - which he will certainly do - just be strong and say no thanks to his advances and keep the door closed.