I met this guy in late August, I'd say. We started going out in early September. Since then we've seen each other about four or five times. Each time except the first time I've gone back to his place. No sex took place or anything like that. I ended up staying the whole night. We cuddled the whole night. The next morning he dropped me off and there wasn't even a kiss.

Now, he told me right from the beginning that he wanted take things slowly?

Well, the last time I was at his place I, again stayed the whole night. The next morning I was lying next to him, pretending to be asleep. (Yes, I was being sneaky.) Anyway, I felt his hands on my body. (This has happened before, but I left before anything could happen.) Eventually, his hands were in my shirt and fondling my breasts. Soon he was kissing them. I was unbelievably turned on and had to tell him to stop. (I'm not on birth control, so I can't do anything more than that.) He *still* hasn't tried to kiss me.

First, is he really into me? Or does he just want me for sex?

Is it code for "You just be available for cuddling and once i'm done screwing these girls that are ready, willing and able to f**k me, then I'll call you?"

If he is into me how can I keep his attention without putting myself in jeopardy (pregency, STD wise.)

I'm afraid to ask him because the last time I did he told me the reason why he hadn't made any other advances was that he was trying to be a gentleman. Could that have been a lie?

Help!

Okay, so you've been together four or five times - you never said anything about him calling you or email. If he's "into" you - you should have some signs by now that he has some sort of genuine interest in you beyond your overnight exploits.

If things are going in a positive direction, he should at least be communicating with you in some way to see "How your doing" - or - "How was your day".

If none of that is happening, then I don't there's anything gentlemenly going on - there's nothing going on. This is just a convenience for him maybe.

Don't compromise yourself to him (pregnancy, STD's, etc., notwithstanding).

I'd say... move on!

Yes. We do talk on the phone. Neither one of us are about people who call us every five minutes. ("Stalkers" we jokingly call them.)

There was a kind of mutal agreement that talking two or three times in a week was okay.

But yes. We do talk to each other.

Hopefully this makes sense.

Hey you're making yourself WAY too available for him. If he wants to take it slow, respect that! You're practically begging him to jump you, and you don't seem too bright to put yourself in these situations, and not be on birth control. Do you have a sister or mother you can talk to about this, or him? Do you even know this guy good enough to be inviting yourself over to his place all the time, and staying the night? Have you ever had a kid that had a crush on you just hang around all the time? It's annoying, and if he wanted to, yes, he would.just be smart.

Hey you're making yourself WAY too available for him. If he wants to take it slow, respect that!You're practically begging him to jump you, (yes....yes I am. And if he doesn't jump me soon I'll go nuts..) and you don't seem too bright to put yourself in these situations, and not be on birth control. (This whole thing just caught me *way* off gaurd. I wasn't even planning on dating anyone. But, since I am seeing someone I like to take the proper precautions.)

Do you have a sister or mother you can talk to about this, or him? (I actually talked to him the other day because I'm not trying to screw our lives up by lying to him about whether or not I am on birth control. That's how he got his daughter ::blink:

Do you even know this guy good enough to be inviting yourself over to his place all the time, and staying the night? (Okay, stop right here. I've never *invited* myself over. He invites me...Him not me.)

Have you ever had a kid that had a crush on you just hang around all the time? It's annoying, and if he wanted to, yes, he would(Ew...that's tacky. )

It's your life, you figure it out. Dont trash decent people who don't understand people with no morals! You don't know me, and I dont know you, just be safe, ok?