I am a twenty year old student who wants to save sex for a very special relationship, possibly even marriage. Looking around, it seems like everyone is having sex. I have met four people who I attend class with, and they all are living with their boyfriends or girlfriends. Looking for a relationship is especially difficult because no guy seems to be willing to wait. It gets to the point where I'm afraid to even tell guys this, or even date anyone because I don't want to get my hopes up and then have them crashed when the guy bails. I don't want to give in, but at the same time, I don't want to be alone either. Is the ENTIRE world having sex, or are people just talking about it to make themselves look cool and modern? How would you go about telling a guy this? Responses greatly appreciated.
If you really want to wait until the right relationship, that is commendable. Stick to your guns! Don't worry about what others are doing. If you really want to wait...wait! There is no reason to compromise your personal vow to yourself. No, not everyone is having sex. There are plenty of people who say tey are when they really aren't. The right guy will wait, that is one way you'll know he's the right one. As far as the guys who aren't willing to wait...good.That means none of them were worth you having around in the first place! Don't give in. They are not worth your body or time. When the right one comes along, you will recognize him. Good luck!
[This message was edited by ladyzen on 01-19-04 at 02:13 PM.]
I'm a virgin too, and although I'm not necessarily saving myself for marrige, I am glad that I have held out for someone who cares about me, and loves me for me, in every light. I'm in college too, so you aren't the only one!
As for the guys, I don't make it public information that I still have my V-card, I don't think it's everyones business. (not suggesting that you tell every one) I tell the people I'm close to, and when I am dating a guy, unless we were friends first, he doesn't usually know untill he either a) uses too many fingers and hurts me b) tries to have sex with me or c) asks how many people I've been with.
I know how you feel, it used to be that you were 'different' if you were having sex, now youre 'different' if you are a virgin!! Most guys I know would prefer a virgin or a girl who has not been with a lot of girls to a girl who has been around the block a little--or a lot.
I am very proud to see that there are still some of you still around. Do not give in. The guys may not like it now but when you get really serious the guy you are with will be glad and less baggage for you to carry around your whole life. Hang in there. Jim
I'll be 26 this month and I'm still a virgin. I'm proud of it, but it's a blessing and a curse, one because it seems all guys, at least my age, want is sex. And I'm not giving in. So, I have a string of "one dates."
But I am a hopeless romantic fool, and I'm not giving up hope that there's a guy out there that's meant for me.
its good and respected,but is a problem, i think both people would have to want to be abstanant for a relationship to work...but thats my POV. i know i couldnt do it...
well i never had sex so far except from mastrubation. but i do want to try it out ofcourse! If needed i can wait a little longer, but sex before marriage is better then after in my opionion since you got to know what the other can do in bed and you need to practice for having children. Hey, i'm just being realistic here!
Im also a virgin and i plan to stay that way until i get married. Ive been dating my bf for 3 yrs on and off he has a kid and has been sexuallly active but he knows that i want to wait and respects that we have phone sex and a couple other things but i i do not want to he doesnt push me into it if u find someone that u careabout and that cares about u it sholdnt matter. And i no how u feel about everone being sexually active but there are still a few out there lol and ive found that u get more respect if u are sometimes
b) tries to have sex with me or c) asks how many people I've been with. 
Most guys I know would prefer a virgin or a girl who has not been with a lot of girls to a girl who has been around the block a little--or a lot.
