Okay, so I am 23 and this guy I am "seeing" is 33. I know it is kind of an age difference but we get along so well! We have been hanging out for over a month. I sometimes stay the night at his apartment and we have slept next to each other. About a week ago we actually slept together and it was great. He seemed fine. However, now he seems distant. This could be part of who he is but I am not sure. I haven't talked to him in a while. I am just wondering if he is just busy starting his new business or if he doesn't like me. I don't want to ask because I am afraid it will freak him out. I don't want him to think I need instant committment, however, I would like to know if we should be exclusive. If he likes me then I will hang in there because I really like him. However, I have been really burned before and I don't want to put more into a relationship if it is going to flop. What should I do without looking like a total idiot who is 23?
I am assuming you are meaning that "sleeping" together means you had sex? Well one thing to note there is to not confuse that act with him being interested in you for a long term relationship. It is a well known fact that some really crazy things happen in the middle of the night. You know what I mean - juices start flowing, hormones are raging, next thing you know you are in each others pants and next morning comes around and you wonder what the heck just happened?? So my guess if that if he is acting distant and not hugging and kissing you all of the time he has not thinking of you as a girlfriend at this point.
At 23 you sound like you are a high schooler and you are asking a dumb question it sounds to me like he got what he wanted and now it's time to move on you are more like a hit and split it situation...You said it yourself you know he is busy starting his new business and it seems to me like you were just what he needed to relieve all that stress move on girl and don't be so naive.