Recently I was out at a club with one of my friends. At this club I met up with another group of my friends. We all were drinking and laughing, having a great time. After some time i meet this really good looking guy. I start to chat him up and all's going well. Then one of my friend joins in the conversation. I think nothing of this. As time passes as I head toward the bathroom, i look back and find my best friend making out with the guy i was flirting with. She also ends up going home with this guy. And is all excited. Now one thing you all should know about my best friend was that about a week before she had just broken up with her girlfriend. Yes thats correct, she's a lesbian. Or I thought she was.

Anyways my question is whats the problem with me? I'm an ambitious individual, who is going to university, who's athletic, musical, easy to get along with, i'm very pretty (from what people have said), go long hair. Basically i'm a single girl.

My friend is uneducated, drug addicted, she sleeps with everyone guy and girl, she's not ugly she a pretty girl, who barely can keep a job.

Basically how come guys won't look at me when she's around? Is it because i have some morals and I won't sleep with everyone? Or is it just because i'm not good enought? Should I start sleeping with people?

I don't understand. Its so depressing, having one of your best friends stab you in the back.

Let me know what you think, i would greatly appreciate someones elses perspective on the situation.

But sweetheart it doesnt at all sound like a bad thing! If anything it sounds like that guy was intimidated by you! I woulnt worry about that guy at all! You will find the right one! I mean honestly you sound like a wonderful person and probally wont find someone "good" enough for you in a club! Most people who are intoxicated arent looking for a nice girl if you get my drift! If I were you I would think about what kind of friend that is anyway! She wouldnt be any friend of mine! Good luck girl! He probally belonged with your so called friend!!

The worst thing you could do would be to "sleep around" especially if it isnt in your nature! I mean you will someday meet the guy for you and he could very well be turned of by your "number" and you could possibly regret it! It takes time!!!!

naaa, your fine...in a bar most of the people are looking for one thing...and your friend knows how to make all the moves, with the one goal in mind.
so its not in you to be that way, and thats ok, just start taking notice of men in other places that are taking notice of you ok? and send out the signals if you should see one that looks good and appears to be looking at you then give him a second and third look, move closer, start a conversation on what he is doing at the moment, like at the library, mention the literature he is into, or at grocery shopping,and ect... once you break the ice, be attentive to what he says and show it by turning towards him and show him that he has your undivided attention...read cosmo. its full of tips and ideas for an intelligent woman as yourself to meet men...and the sexual tips and advise is good as well...yes Im a man, but I strive to keep up with all the ideas and techniques that may be new to me in a mans sexuality...and women as well, thats in there as well.its just good reading wink,wink. hope this helps David.