This probably isn't the right board but I need advice. If I like a guy and if I don't know if he likes me I'm fine and I will still be attracted to him. But if I find out he likes I get completely turned off of him and cannot even think about having a date with him. This probably isn't enough information but I just need some feed back f anyone has suggestions it would be greatly appreciated!

hellow, welcome to the forums...love that name.
so anyway I want you to do this for me ok, its going to help, trust me...what I want you to do is look at your question again, and then you answer it yourself, in what do you think the problem is...ok? write it down here ok? ok. seeya soon Dave.

Thank you for liking my name Okay let me see, I guess the answer to my problem would be that I play games but the guy doesn't even know but I just play them by myself I don't know!!!! okay I tried now you give me your intake!

Hi, thanks for the reply...I can go two ways with this and so I want you to see them both and think of what could be true ok?
now the first and easyest would be if you see yourself that you are playing a game then I can see that your more or less developing an intrest in a guy and then turning away if he should develope one for you is ok...and that your just not ready to start a relationship, and your attractions for a guy is only natural...so what I can offer to you is that when you are ready to cross that boarder then you will know and then you will allow yourself to go with it, so until then dont worry...your just simply not ready yet ok?
now as for the other idea that I have, is that you could possibly have a fear of being hurt or rejected if you should try and allow yourself to start a relationship...now this can come from an earlier expierience as if you have parents who were divorced, or that maybe one of them had actually kept putting you down or pushed you away when you needed their attention from them the most..and now that you are getting older then it is starting to show as a wall or barrier that you have to prevent yourself from being hurt or rejected again...its now a fear that you have, and in your mind you are going into a protect mode so to keep that fear from happening...so you switch him off and easily forget about it, and so to put it better, is to say that you start to like a guy, and then when he starts to like you then you back off, you retreat, back to where you are safe.
so Ill have to stop here with these ideas for you to look at ok? and see if you feel that one of these may be true in your case ok? and then you tell me what you think...and if you feel that none of this is what you think or that it may be a possiblity, then tell me and Ill ask you a few more questions to put us on the right track, ok? ok. one more thing, how do you feel about yourself? is it good , bad or what? seeya soon, David.

First let me start by saying thank you for taking time to give me your ideas on my problem! Your probably right about the direction you were going with about age I am 18 but others my age do not have the same problem (that I know anyways.) But I think it is the second direction you were going with because with past experiences all guys I have met and been friends with turn out to be psychotic nutcases. And I do not mean in a little immature teeny bopper kind of way psycho. So I guess I always feel I should not waste my time because the person will be a crack job anyways. I think I am just going to say the hell with it and go out with them and let things happen.
Again thank you and if you have more advice I am all ears.
Oh yes about your other question I feel extremely good about myself. I am confident, happy, in college and outgoing so I do not think that it is my self-confidence or anything like that interferring.

"note to self"... learn.....more......about......the.....person.......first. I can be to assuming sometimes, oh well...glad you feel good about yourself.
you can make friends with other women and they can help you meet guys who are more "sane" he,he...for when you have a friend or friends that you know and trust then you will trust them to help you find a guy. that is a suggestion I would try...and try and relax alittle more with your guard, and give them a chance to prove themselves...set some guidelines, that you will feel safe to go without getting hurt, and if they cant meet them, then you have tried, so then you move on. I hope I salvaged at least some of what you were trully looking for here...good luck, David.