Here's the thing. My boyfriend has gone away to school this year. We decided to tone our relationship down a bit. We are now just techically "Dating" kind of like it was when we first started seeing each other. My question is what do you guys think this means for the physical aspect of our relationship. FOr now I feel it should not include intercourse. I think going on just "Dating" would be hard if there were intercourse. However, I dont really see trouble with "Fooling Around". I would like some other opinions if anyone has any.

I think you answered your own question in stating you both decided to bring your relationship down a notch from a committed relationship to "just dating".

So if you went on a date with somone else would you jump in the sack with him? I am guessing the answer would be of course not so why would your rules change just because you went on a date with your ex-boyfriend?

If you (or him) feels that although the both of you agreed to tone it down and just date (meaining you can date others) that sex should be on menu then you really didn't mean it when you agreed to tone it down.

Yes I dont agree that intercourse should be involved. I guess "fooling around" should be cut out as well. When we first went out we didnt do anything. I dont mind cutting these things out. The one thing that I do miss is the holding each other before sleep. Im pretty sure he feels the same way we havent exactly talked about it but I am going to bring it up when I see him. Thanks alot for your veiw.

great question. I also am confused about this whole dating, seeing thing. What is the difference when a guy says "I want to date" or "I want to see you?"

And how long should dating or seeing last before it becomes more? Is it when you have intercourse? And what does a guy mean when he says that he wants to date you and only sleeps with one person at a time?

It was so much easier when I was in high school LOL LOL.

It would be great to get men's opinion on this and also women's so that we can understand all of this dating thing.

I feel the same way. At first I wasnt sure what I could or couldnt say. Although this week I was I guess fine with what to do and how were supposed to act. Although I did talk to my Bf about no intercourse while we do this. I dont think he quite liked it but he will go along with it. I also mentioned that I dont know yet about "fooling around". I know he didnt like that. So I guess he really doesnt want to do this "dating" thing. Im going to give it one more week. Honestly I dont feel there is much of a change.

I am beginnning to think this "dating" or even just stepping back is not going to work. It seems that we're stepping back during the week, but back to serious boyfriend and girlfriend on the weekend. Depending on how the week goes this idea may just go down the drain.