About 3 months ago I broke up w/someone I was very serious with and it really made me realize alot of what i'm looking for after realizing what I was doing and not receiving back. Recently I met a girl that I find very attractive who is frustrated w/her relationship and knows its soon to end, so she has started seeing what is out there. When we first met, we both talked alot about our past relationship and both of us were giving so much towards it and not getting anything back and it almost felt like our problems were identical and from what she was telling me she was doing for her man, made me go wow, I wouldn't know what to do if a girl could be that way for me. So needless to say i'm very attracted to her personality and physically but I was straightforward and said that right now it seems she still has unfinished business with her x since they still talk and haven't ended it officially. So I told her thats ok cause i'm just trying to get to know her for now but once its official, i'd like to know b/c i'm interested. My worry though is that while waiting for it to become official, her and I go into being just good "friends" and when it does become official, we lose that opportunity of being more than just friends? Should I take advantage of the opportunity now and see what happens or by me telling her once its official, i'm interested and her still calling me everyday since then, mean that it could still work out if I wait?
Ok. You don't really have a choice but to wait quite frankly. NUmber 1 I can be almost sure that she is not telling you EXACTLY how she's feeling right now, maybe she sees the relationship ending but is too scared to end it? If she does have the courage to get out of a bad relationship that is not advancing, then she will still need some time to adjust to the single life and move on bla bla, life without her ex etc... Now comes you in the picture - she won't be ready to start a new relationship right away. There is a lot of emotional baggage after a break up, I am sure you understand since you've been thorough a rough one yourself. It's not healthy to get involved with anyone else too soon. She has to sort herself out first. So even if it becomes "official" as you say, then don't jump the boat too fast. Take it easy. If it's meant to be it's meant to be!
