I've been in a long-distance relationship for
2 1/2 years. I feel very much in love and trust him completely. It seems the problem is me...I have been noticing this one particular man at work,extremely attractive,that was it, but just recently,we locked eyes and have silently flirted (I think). I also seen him at the bank and he went out of his way to say hi. Now, I can't stop thinking about him...Wow, I feel guilty . I really want to talk to him...What's a girl ta do
Suzy

That is exactly why it doesn't work. I was in one, for a lot longer and I felt very alone. Eventually I did have an affair. The affair pulled me ****her away from him and eventually we broke up. I think it's really hard to maintain closeness, while being so far. You start missing the companionship, friendship and the romance...and finally one day it goes. But I also know people who have made it. But if you're starting to look around, chances are low.
Why are you guys apart?

We are apart because he is working and going through a law suit that he needs to be available for at anytime. I appreciate your reply, I can't believe someone actually opened my eyes. I do love him alot! But, I am getting lonely and I did the unthinkable today and talked to this man at work and (gulp) gave him my phone number. Oh' my. I am such a quiet, shy person. I have no idea what came over me!

oh how sweet... drop the long distance thing now!! youve moved on.

...because your feelings for this other person that you had the long distance relationship were not true.

I'm in one of those relationships now. I met my boyfriend online almost two years ago (November being the anniversary of two years) and we're still together and still going very strong. Our distance is from Idaho to New York, so it takes a lot of money to be able to see each other, but we did it last month. He came and visited me for the first time and everything went perfect and we still have strong feelings for each other.

I can't say I know what the future holds for us, I'm only hoping that there will still be us because we have years before we can really be together since we have college starting. It will be hard for us, but I have faith that we'll make it, espeically since we love and trust each other as much as we do.

We have had our quarls and bad times, and those are the hard times because in that time...you just want to be held. The great thing that we have that is hard to find when you meet someone in person, is communication. We met by communicating, and we still do it wonderfully if something is really bothering us.

In a long distance relationship, what you really need is patience, and to know that you truely do care about each other enough to wait and be faithful. That's how I think they will work.

I thought my feelings and intentions were true, that's why I'm so confused and got this poll started to see what others may say about it. I was hoping to get a few differant opinions on this topic. I've been with out him for 2 months after a 3 week visit and I don't know why, all of the sudden, it's eating at me. Is it attention from another man? I think that long-distance relationships ****! Lord knows, if it doesn't work out, I'll never do it again.

look ummm...its suzy right? [or is it]
try a pencil and paper with your romance novel ok? good try though...you even got me to reply at first...but not twice,adios!

David Evans,
It was so kind of you to reply. Aren't you a little cocky though? I was looking for a variety of perspectives from other people who may have been through this before.Not your ho-hum attitude.

well of course...research is good for a novel, but real issues must be addressed here...not test teasers for a good book...oh my, what came over me...I havent a clue maybe Ill just [gulp] say good bye again. please dont insult the intelligence of my friends...thanks.
ps. I wont reply again...so ask away and "maybe" you can get what you came for...as they say around here, everyone is entitled to seek advise, Im just letting the members here know the "real" motivations of this topic...cocky?? naaa just perturbed.

Well, this is a real issue in my life right now and maybe you think I have plenty of time to play on the internet and think up topics to see if anyone responds...No sir. Basically, I'm secluded and wanted advise from people who have been in the same shoes.I know that other people are going through the same thing, but it seems like a remote subject. I had to order some books from the book store on long-distance relationships in search of ways to cope.Not that it matters much what you think sir, this is real and I don't have time to play. Thanks to all that responded. I appreciate it.

I've been in a long-distance relationship for a while now and we are unable to see each other because we are in different universities. If you're straying/losing interest after two months then theres something else going on-besides the distance. Have you ever sat down and seriously contemplated if you love him? Not that I know anything, but it sounds like you aren't satisfied either with him or with being in a relationship if you're giving out your phone number to a guy after two months.

Well, I have seriously contemplated over this relationship time and time again. I am in love with him! Just seriously lonely. I've stopped talking to that man after realizing what a good thing I already have and remembering how very hard it is to find a good man.

I think it can work. I have met my boyfriend over the internet and he is in the US and I am in Canada. I am working on moving there but we are so in love distance isnt an issue..

I just got back from my two week vacation to see my boyfriend who lives across the country. Coming back was the hardest thing ever. Already I miss him, and this time was even harder than the first when he came to visit me for the first time. He also proposed so are are now engaged.

Right now he is working on getting a job, and me getting a better one so that he can get his behind over here and we can get a place together. It's only been three days since my return from New York, but god it hurts a lot from going to the closeness of being able to touch and hold him to phone calls once again. But we both know in the end that things will be wonderful together. Our time together I can only describe as perfect.

We love each other over much and we will fight for our goal which is to be together without having to leave each other again. It will probably be another year and a half to two years (because there was a change in plans...he isn't gonna finish college because what he was going for which is writing wasn't worth $7000 a sememster because writing wouldn't pay it off), but we are going to get through it. Right now for the both of us are are going through hard times, but no matter what, we know we have each other and the love of one another.

Just because a big distance separates you, doesn't mean you can't overcome it. It's just an obstacle in the way and you need to work to get past it. It's just cruel that we end up finding the perfect someone who we love with all our hearts that lives so far away. You just need to stick to it and things will come out in the end.

Hey, I really loved your perspective. Very intelligent point of view and every word is true. We are a few short months away from our ultimate goal, which is getting married and living together happily ever after. I love him so much, I don't know how I could ever let distance get in the way.

Incase anyone was interested. My man & I survived our long distance relationship. It took 3 years but we are now married & we are 4 months pregnant. I went back to the topic today out of curiosity & I was hoping to give someone a little hope. I know what it's like & how hard it is. Good Luck!